Food (for thought) Friday: The Shooting in CT

We at Mommy's Recess are praying for the families, children and employees at the school. Now is not a time to debate guns laws, remember, schools are "gun free zones". Now is the time to pray.

So please, pray. And hug your babies tight tonight.

Toy Thursday: Get Paid To Shop....No, Really...

Sounds too good to be true? It's not. I'll admit. I was a little hesitant to sign up for Ebates, even though I have been doing MyPoints for years. It took forever for me to get enough points to get a reward.

But I did it. I signed up for Ebates. I knew it was the real deal when I got my Target gift card in the mail, just for signing up. Since then, I received a check for $10 that I deposited in my account. I know, it doesn't sound like much, but when you calculate in not paying sales tax, having to use gas to go to the store etc etc... and if you're already shopping online, why not, right?

It's easy follow this link, sign up and use ebates as a jumping off point for all of your online shopping. You'll be excited to see the % of cash back you can get!!

Shuffle Saturday: I Have a Bully

I have a confession. My second child is a bully. I'll admit it. But he's also one of the sweetest kids I know. He likes to sit next to me on the couch, putting his arm in mine while watching TV. He likes to sing to his baby brother when he's crying and is always very helpful putting diapers in the garbage. But he can be a bully.

It's a part of his personality. When he was 6 months old in the Jumparoo, he'd bounce, turn back to me and give me a "look" that would scare me. And honestly, not a lot scares me. I am a Ghost Hunter after all.

It's when I get reports from my Mother In Law that a parent claims we need to "get him under control" or that we "should just leave" while playing at the playground or Monkey Joe's. And that makes me angry. Thankfully my 6 year old can explain what actually happened, as the three year old and the other child always seem to have a limited vocabulary.

This post is mostly for the parents of the kid who claims he's been picked on. Get the whole story. Maybe your kid fell on his own. Maybe your kid started it. You can't always believe your own child, I know I don't. And you can't always coddle them. They have to grow up. They have to learn to stand up for themselves. They can't always run and tattle on the other kid. This "snowflake" children mentality has to stop. Yes, your child is special, but so is mine.

I insist on the whole story AND make my child take personal responsibility if he is the guilty party. However, if I (or my in-laws) pay to enter a play area, we will not leave because you embarrass us in front of other parents. I can honestly say that the last parent that approached my mother in law is just lucky it was her and not me. I am a bulldog when it comes to my kids. But I also believe they should be punished if they're the instigator.

I really fear the generation my children are being raised in. It seems every child has learned that if he whines and complains, he can get what he wants, even if he's the trouble maker. I refuse to raise my kids with that mentality.

Be the adult. Don't show your kids it's okay to embarrass other parents. Be diplomatic. Be responsible. BE A PARENT.

Make Monday: Pumpkins

Orange everywhere! Our wall is covered with pumpkins to celebrate the Fall season. And making these pumpkins made for a good Fall activity on a cold, rainy day.

My neighbor expanded on our coffee filter flowers. Her son wanted to do a craft with eye droppers. So instead of using washable markers for color, they came up with the idea of using droppers with colored water.

To get started, recycle and save your infant medicine droppers. Add food coloring to various cups of water to get desired colors. Squeeze droplets onto the coffee filters watching the color diffuse together. Dry between paper towels or on paper bags. Once dry, add black construction paper faces or connect pumpkins with green vines and leaves for your own personal pumpkin patch.

Decorate your own house with pumpkins.

Salvation Sunday: Baby Harry's Baptism

As Catholics, my husband and I believe in baptizing our children shortly after birth. We always try to make this a family affair, as it is our family that holds us together, our family gives us strength, with our shared faith in God.

I won't be posting a lot of words, as there are none. But these, Matthew 19:14, "Jesus said, "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these."

Food Friday: BPA Myths

On this food friday, we won't post a recipe. However, I do want to discuss something I think is important for all parents to read. As a mom, I always try to give my kids the best. That's why when this latest BPA scare came out, I wanted to do more research.

I ran across an article that I thought spoke to me well. The author discusses the studies that the media twists and turns and uses to scare parents. 

I have two children, one boy and one girl. While I was pregnant, my doctor never told me to avoid any kind of food packaging. My child's doctor has never mentioned anything about thyroid levels with my boy, and I'm not worried. My son is a very bright, curious and healthy boy. 

Every year, my family tries to travel to Canada for a vacation and I know how strict their rules are when it comes to food. Knowing that Canada debunked the theory of BPA makes me feel even better. 

I store my leftovers in plastic containers. We eat food packaged cans and bags. This author had it right. Even though we're busy moms, we must not allow the media to scare us before we can do some research ourselves. We can not allow ourselves to be scared and swayed. Every mother wants to do what's right by her children, but I've learned we can't take "reports" at face value. We must do our own research and yes, even as the author said, use common sense.

What do you think? 

Food Friday: Chicken Cordon Bleu....IN THE CROCKPOT!

Oh yes. Believe it. I wasn't sure at first either, but it really works and was really good. I would have taken a picture but we all, including my husband who claims he doesn't like Chicken Cordon Bleu, gobbled it all up.

So here's the recipe, from Chef In Training.

6 skinless, boneless chicken breast halves (I just used an entire frozen bag of breasts...and put them in frozen!)
1 (10.75 ounce) can condensed cream of chicken soup
1 cup milk
4 ounces sliced ham
4 ounces sliced Swiss cheese
1 (8 ounce) package herbed dry bread stuffing mix (I used Stove Top Chicken Flavored)
1/4 cup butter, melted
Mix together the cream of chicken soup and milk in a small bowl. Pour enough of the soup into a slow cooker to cover the bottom.
Layer chicken breasts over the sauce.
Cover with slices of ham and then Swiss cheese.
Pour the remaining soup over the layers, stirring a little to distribute between layers. ( I didn't stir and it turned out great!)
Sprinkle the stuffing on top, and drizzle butter over stuffing.
Cover, and cook on Low for 4 to 6 hours, or 2 to 3 hours on High.
Enjoy!

It was SO good. Enjoy!

Make Monday: Celebrate Harvest with Corn.

We have already been to the farm this harvest season for a combine ride. The kids have a blast seeing the combine suck up those golden corn stocks through the field. Then a sight to see is to watch the kernels being transferred over to into the wagon before it makes its way to the elevator.

To celebrate harvest season, we decided to make some corn stalks all our very own. Then we shucked some of our own ears to see the yellow dried kernels inside.

Supplies

Bubble Wrap
Yellow Washable Finger Paint
Green Construction Paper or Tissue Paper
Paper Towel Roll
Glue

Instructions

To make corn stalks, brush washable yellow paint over the paper towel roll. Let dry and then glue green leaves to the sides of the roll. To make corn on the cob squirt yellow washable finger paint on top of the bubble wrap (bubbles facing up). Roll the paper towel roll around for 3-D kernel effect. Let dry and then glue green leaves at the base of the corn.

Decorate your own house with corn stalks hanging on the walls and cobs of corn in a basket for a table center piece.

Toy Thursday: Science Experiment - Rainbow in a Jar

Sometimes we have those random moments we need to fill to pass the time while sister is sleeping. This is a great opportunity to do a quick science experiment. In this case, we followed the instructions from Mudpies to Magnets: A Preschool Science Curriculum for "A Rainbow in a Jar."

In this relaxing activity, preschoolers can "watch colors float through water in beautiful designs and also see primary colors blend to create secondary colors." Put on some classical music to add to the fun.
Discuss colors diffusing together to create currents of shapes and designs. Find patterns, blend colors, and experiment.

Items Needed

Glass Jar
Food Coloring
Water

Instructions

Fill the clear glass jar or vase with water. Set the jar in a spot for a child to observe from all angles. Place one drop of each primary color of food coloring approximately three to five centimeters for the streams to go deeper. Observe the currents making patterns with the colors mixing them into designs.  This experiment works best if the water has been sitting overnight before adding colors. However, compare the water that has been sitting to a freshly filled jar. Expand your experiment to include ink, oil, or tempera paint.

This just might be your ticket to a pot of gold on a rainy, cold day.

Food Friday: Beans with Ham!

What do you when you combine leftover local ham steaks with chilly Fall days? Why you get yummy, tummy-filling, old-fashioned beans with ham served over hot cornbread.

I remember when worked at a local restaurant in high-school. One of the specials you saw written up on the dry erase board was ham and beans. I never really tried it until then. I came away with a new comfort food and winter favorite.

Beans with Ham is a favorite recipe from a family friend who happens to be a small family farmer specializing in hormone and antibiotic free-pastured beef, pork, and free-range chickens. Now I also use Crooked Gap Farms ham and broth as the main ingredient for her recipe.

Check it out! And better yet, serve ham and beans for dinner.

Beans with Ham

1 pint Ham broth
1 quart beans
1/4 cup chopped onion
1 teaspoon parsley
1/8 teaspoon pepper
brown sugar to taste
leftover diced ham

Instructions

Simmer on low in crock pot. Serve with cornbread.

Make Monday: Olympian Medals

Do not forget all those medals you need for your little Olympian as they participate in their own Olympic events. Here is a way to make your own medals.

Supplies

String
Metal Tin Can Lid
Nail
Hammer

Instructions

Use a lid from a can of food as your base. Different cans appear gold or silver in color. Make sure it is clean without rust. When opening the can, use a can opener that will not make dangerous sharp edges (Pampered Chef has one). Take the nail, making it upright, and pound a hole with in the top of the lid from which to hang the string. Punch more holes with the hammer to make a design such as USA. Decorate the lid as otherwise desired. Sport your medal after finished events.

Note: This project works well with older kids. Please supervise the kids using hammers and nails. Do this project on a surface used for hammering.

Toy Thursday: My Little Olympian

If your house has been like ours, the Olympics have been a big hit both on and off the television. Our son has been joining us in the evenings as we tune into the world competitions.

I remember as a kid the Olympics were a big deal. Four years between events is a long time for a kid. To add to the wonder, we grew up with stars like Mary Lou Retton and Kerri Strug among others in the summer Olympics. We dreamed big. We put up our posters. And we pretended we were gymnasts.

To be on the other side of those dreams watching your kid pretend is no different. We talk about the Olympics a lot: "Where are their pants (regarding the leotards)?" "What is Hungarian?" And "Why do they have masks (regarding fencing)?" And "Where is Michael Philips?" So with our globe beach ball in hand, our commercial breaks filled with somersaults and cartwheels, and our fencing costume, we have won gold medals in playing Olympics for sure.

In fact the other evening, our neighbor had her whole yard filled with Olympic track and field events for the kids. She had her tin foil shot put to toss, her straw javelins to throw, and the Frisbee disc to send through the air. We used a toilet paper roll for our relay race and long, rectangle flower pots for hurdles. We had yellow streamers for our finishers. Then we finished our evening with pop sickles before heading indoors to watch more Olympics.

Take this time to use the Olympics to your advantage for fun! Make a torch out of a paper towel roll, tin foil, and tissue paper (for the fire). Use pipe cleaners to make the rings. And by all means set up your own events. Do a simple geography lesson with a map. Dream big for the Olympics do not come often enough for young imaginations.

Make Monday: The Sun is Shining!

With all this heat comes lots and lots of sunshine! Unfortunately, if you live in the Midwest like us, going outside to enjoy this sunshine is out of the question in these hot temperatures. So we took sunshine indoors by making sunshine to go with our flowers.


Supplies

Random Pasta noodles, different shapes
Paper plates
Yellow colors or paints
Elmer's glue

Instructions

Dig out your macaroni and penne pasta for crafting. Meanwhile, color or paint your paper plate yellow, the color of the sun. Glue on your pasta on as desired. Let paint and glue dry. Then hang up your sunshine with your flowers. 

Food Friday: Gestational Diabetes Approved Recipe...Beef Stroganoff

Beef Stroganoff was perhaps one of my favorite dishes that I discovered during my diet change. This recipe comes directly from the American Heart Association as a low salt, a low carbohydrates dish excellent for my gestational diabetes.

I enjoyed this gourmet recipe served on top of mashed potatoes with a side of green beans. With 276 calories and only 16g or carbs, 92mg of sodium, and 10g of fat, and lots of protein at 29g, it was certainly a heart healthy winner which I still make today for my family.

Ingredients

1 pound beef tenderloin or sirloin steak, all visible fat removed
1/8 teaspoon pepper
1 teaspoon vegetable oil
1/2 pound of fresh mushrooms (sliced is about 2 1/2 cups) or 1 can mushrooms, rinsed
1 medium onion, sliced
2 cups of low-sodium beef broth, heated
3 tablespoons all-purpose flour
2 tablespoons no-salt-added tomato paste
2 tablespoons dry sherry
1 teaspoon dry mustard
1/8 teaspoon dried oregano, crumbled
1/8 teaspoon dried dill weed, crumbled
1/4 cup nonfat or light sour cream

Directions

Cut meat into thin strips about 2 inches long. Sprinkle with pepper. Heat a large nonstick skillet over medium-high heat. Add oil and swirl to coat bottom. Cook meat for 1 minute. Add mushrooms and onion; cook for 2-3 minutes, or until onion is translucent, stirring occasionally. In a medium bowl, whisk together broth and flour. Add to skillet; bring to a boil. Reduce heat and simmer for 2-3 minutes, or until thickened, stirring constantly. In a small bowl, whisk together remaining ingredients except sour cream. Stir into meat mixture. Simmer, covered, for 5-10 minutes, or until beef is tender. Transfer about 1/4 cup sauce to a small bowl; add sour cream and whisk together. Stir back into skillet and cook for 5 minutes, or until warmed throughout. Serves 4 at 1 cup per serving.

Wash Wednesday: The Battle of Random Crap around the House!

It was the pink pacifier in the laundry room that made me think of it. Do you ever wonder how things end up where they do?

Take for instance our neighbors pink pacifier left here last week during the 4th of July festivities (I will get it back to you soon, I promise). I found it on the floor among the toys that I picked up and laid it on the counter in order to return it that evening. From there the pacifier made its way upstairs because Judah insisted it needed to be up there. The pacifier found its way shuffled between the changing table and the dresser. Finally, I put it in the hamper with the dirty laundry and recycling so that I would remember to take it back downstairs and give it back. Finally, the dirty laundry came downstairs and as I was sorting, oh yeah, I found the Binky that I still need to return. And now it sits on the counter so that I can sterilize it before returning it....that is until Judah finds it and carries it off again, "because he wants to return it to Baby Anna."

But it was the pink pacifier that reminded me how often I pick up random things around the house and if you have kids then perhaps not just once but twice. In fact some days, that is all the cleaning I seem to get done between husband and kids. I bet you never found dried dandelion seeds at the bottom of a bucket of toys. Or the single crayon that made its way into the bed sheets. And my personal favorite - the random stickers that find their way to my clothes from sitting on the couch.

The worst seems to be that dumping station in the kitchen. You know what I am talking about. Even with a junk drawer (which is really a catch all drawer that is so full that you cannot even open it), you still end up with a pile of junk on your kitchen counter somewhere. It happened to my mom growing up and now to my disgust, it happens in my house. I hate cluttered counters but if you were to look at it right now, you would find the air pump for the air mattress that needs fixed, an Aflac toy duck, an old game cube that needs to be sold, library books, a teething toy, paint sponges that still need washed, and always those miscellaneous papers that somehow multiply.

I always joke about how often I am picking up random crap around my house. By the time I actually pick it up and put it where it belongs, who has time to really clean. Why dust anyways when the crap covers it up....

What about you?

Make Monday: Flowers In Bloom!

Salvation Sunday: The Speck in my "I"

During quiet time this afternoon, Judah got off his bed before his timer clock changed to its "you can get off now" state. Judah came in my room where I was trying to nap and wanted me to read the Bible to him. What do you do? He disobeyed but you want to raise him up to enjoy reading the Bible.

So I walked him back into his room to his bed saying, "I will read a few verses and then you need to have a longer quiet time." So Judah opened up my Bible pointing to some random verse and says read this.

I started laughing. He pointed right to the passage about "obeying your parents." No lie....He then wanted another verse. And we did some more quiet time but I never got my nap.

On a serious note, God has been convicting me a lot lately about "'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?" This situation turned up the brightness of the light bulb.

Like blaming others when I am the one complaining. Like getting angry at someone for being angry. Like getting grumpy over things I never communicated in the first place. This list goes on. I am certainly guilty and quite often too.

God has used a number of verses that seem to pop out as blatant as the situation above. But this is no laughing matter when reality is I need to take out the speck in my eye. So my prayer is that God will soften my heart to one more tender and responsive in love.

Tip Tuesday: Kids Need Plenty of Water...and Here's How!!

With all this heat, here is a friendly reminder to drink lots of water....not pop, beer, but WATER! Especially our little ones!

When I was little I remember my family taking my dad to the emergency for heatstroke after a softball tournament on a particular hot weekend in July. He had gotten too hot and dehydrated that day with 90+ temperatures and humidity. Ever since that day he does not handle the heat very.

I was reminded of this when Judah got dehydrated this week especially after being out in the heat even the tiniest bit. Even indoors, we find ourselves drinking a lot of water due to the unbearable heat. So I have encouraged him to drink plenty of water every time I remembered. It was Judah who came up with the idea of keeping a cup within his reach to remind him.

One day Judah was trying to figure out how to stick his drinking cup to the fridge. He kept asking for some way to attach it to the fridge door on his level. With that idea in mind, I went upstairs to my sewing stuff and found some adhesive Velcro (which you can find at the fabric store or in a craft section at a department store). Together we stuck the scratchy pieces to the fridge door and its corresponding soft pairs to the cup.

Now Judah can access his cup at any time from where it sticks and step over to the other fridge door to get water. This system has saved time in asking for help as well as encouraged independence and ingenuity.

Please remember though to be careful with spilled water on a tile floor as it gets really slippery. Also keep an eye out for objects finding their way inside the cup (like dirty pennies). Be sure too to clean the cup every so often by running it through the dishwasher. And lastly, make sure your child is not dipping the cup into the cat water dish as he refills it.

Happy Hydrating!

Make Monday: Bandanas for the 4th!

The heat is bad here in Iowa. And it is supposed to be bad over the 4th of July festivities. If you are looking for a creative way for your kids to beat the heat indoors and then again for for the parades, then make some patriotic bandanas.

Your kids will love participating in this project as well as wearing them for all your activities this week. And on the side you keep their head protected from the hot sunshine. As a plus, all the grandparents will think they are so cute sporting their creations with their star sunglasses, parade beads, and Popsicle mustaches.

To get started, purchase a fabric square of washable white cotton from a hobby or fabric store. We actually found ours from Oriental Trading Company that had "USA" designs a while back. Find some Elmers washable glitter paint pens or washable fabric paint pens.

Find a location safe to paint and paint the cloth with the glitter paint pens. Lay flat to dry. Flip over and do the other side if desired. Once dry, wear to the 4th of July parade to block the sun.

We learned a few things The paints do leak through until they dry. Also, Q-tips work well to spread out globs of paint onto other portions of the design. Small dots work the best.

Happy Independence Day! Have fun letting your child shine their independence through their bandana creations.

Wash Wednesday: Let Me Wash that Outfit!

Judah is in that stage where he dresses himself. And he takes after his dad....plaid shorts with print color shirt! But we can work on his fashion sense over time. I am just glad he is finally starting to pick out his own clothes and even put them on himself except for a little help with the sleeves or untwisting the bottoms. I even want to get him his own hook to learn to hang up his clothes to wear again.

What we really need to work on though is getting the clothes off to wash them. Every kid has that one outfit that they want to wear day after day over and over. Well ours right now happens to be of all things a pair of "Buzz, Buzz, Lightyear" $1.00 consignment pajamas tops and shorts.

Our next favorite is Judah's John Deere shirt and socks. As you can see in the picture he combined his two favorite outfits. Even so on Easter Judah had to wear his blue water shoes with his black suit and pink tie. Each time this happen it creates quite a stir and a memory (for the pictures).

So what do you do? You tell them you have to wash them because they wore them yesterday and then slept in them overnight. Then you tell them you have to wash them because they spilled lunch on them and they got muddy from playing outside.

Either way it is a battle. But I did manage to get them off this morning on the condition that I would wash them today...how about you?

TIp Tuesday: No Expectations!

Yes, we are still here just in case you were wondering. Baby time turned into a 3 month sabbatical from the blog. Kristyna (Krissy) Jane was born March 14 and we have been adjusting ever since as we make her a part of our family.

Some of these adjustments are to be expected...The late night feedings. Nursing tanks and in between comfortable elastic clothes (because nothing else fits). Blow out diapers. Naps. Eating and going to the bathroom in a hurry. A crying baby. Hormone changes. Somehow I thought it would seem easier this time because I knew what to expect and what to do with a baby.

As I experience motherhood for the second time though some preconceived notions were thrown out of the window right away and I had to adjust in ways I did not even imagine. I thought I could settle back into routine with just adding one more person.

Little did I know that I would grieve and cry over spending one-on-one time with my firstborn. And then I would cry over not having alone time to get to know baby number two. On one hand I would cry for some sleep as I realized I could not sleep with baby since child number one was finally awake for the day with loads of energy to unload. And on the other hand, I would cry when child number one would turn into a little terror that would stomp and pull baby number two or melt into previously unknown temper tantrums. Even the hormone changes caught me off guard with sweaty arm pits and heat flashes. I guess I had a lot to work through.

The bottom line advice this second time around on what I have learned....have NO EXPECTATIONS as it will all come with time!

Worrying about a dirty house, still being in your pajamas, and trying to care for two crying kids can get the best of you if you had plans you wanted to complete and a routine you needed to keep. Enjoying and focusing on yourself and your family is the key. When you do get a load of laundry done or make supper or have a peaceful nap time you can relish in accomplishing something instead of what you did not get done.

So hopefully we are back as we settle into a new routine. Back for some advice from you more experienced moms. Back to offer you new moms a recess reprieve. And back for some laughs and tips as we go through motherhood together!

Wash Wednesday: The Stinky Garbage Can

Oh my goodness, the garbage can. I'm not talking about the one in the house, but the one that sits in the garage. It STINKS and it's starting to make the whole garage stink. I have a feeling it's only going to get worse as the temperature goes up.

When our inside can starts to smell, we wash it out in the shower, let it dry and throw a used (but still smelly) dryer sheet in the bottom. It seems to help. But what do you do with the outside can??

After the garbage man comes on Friday, I plan on trying the same method with the inside can (but with a garden hose outside). And let it air dry Friday afternoon. Do you think it will work?

What do you do to help the stinky garbage can problem? Any tips you want to share with other readers? Please leave them in the comments. Together we can fight stinky garbage cans everywhere!!!

Salvation Sunday: Vote Your Values--Catholics Need To Vote For Mullen in Senate District 22

Fellow Catholics. There's only ONE choice for us in the Senate District 22 race. That choice is Jeff Mullen.

I was raised a Democrat in a small farming community in West Central Iowa. My parents were raised in very devout Catholic homes. The Kennedy family was viewed as role models (why, I'm not quite sure), but JFK was the first Catholic President. My mom and dad both talk about how the Nuns (Catholic school) came into the classrooms crying to inform the students about his assassination.

My brother and I were raised in a devout Catholic home as well. Mom was in the Ladies Guild, Dad sang in the Choir and quite often served as Lector. We practically had to have a sick note from the Pope to miss Mass on Sunday. But when I got to voting age, I was troubled. I had always been a "Democrat", and registered as such when I turned 18, but I had trouble with the issue of abortion.

As a Catholic, I always believed that life begins at conception. Abortion was just wrong. The Bible tells us "Thou shall not kill", and believing that life begins at conception, that would be murder, right? Having looked closer at the two parties, I eventually switched my party affiliation to Republican while in College. After graduation, I worked for Republicans and even rose through the ranks of the Polk County GOP to be elected Co-Chair at the ripe old age of 25.

In November, my husband, 3 boys ages 6, 3 and 1 and I moved to Waukee. The Senate District 22 race was in my home district and I took an interest in it, after all, I had a bit of a history in the race. Back in 2004, I had helped Pat Ward in her special election to get her elected to the Iowa Senate. I was excited to see what I thought was a strong, Conservative woman in the Iowa Senate and I hoped she would show the Ol' Boys Club that us girls could run along with the big boys. I was, however, disappointed in her performance. She didn't turn out to be the leader I thought she could be. I thought she'd be the one to stand up against Gronstal. The one who would stand up for ALL women's rights, those with AND who had yet to obtain a birth certificate.

On Friday, Jeff Mullen was considered a "candidate we find sufficiently meet our judgment criteria reflecting ability, sincerity and responsiveness in support of our Pro-Life legislative priorities" from the Iowa Right to Life. I've had a few sit down meetings with Candidate Mullen and I believe that he will be the candidate who protects life.

I urge Catholics residing in Senate District 22 to take a good look at this issue. As a Catholic, it is a core belief of ours to protect life. Candidate Mullen will do so. In my opinion, Pat Ward has failed at this issue. We as Catholics have the responsibility to stand up for life. We have the responsibility to vote for those who will protect life.

On Tuesday, I'll be voting for Jeff Mullen (www.jeffmullen.com ), not just for me, but for all of my boys, including my son who is due in August. Candidate Mullen will be a great voice for all of Senate District 22, including those who are not yet born. 

 

 

*Note: This blog post was originally published on the Waukee Patch but has since vanished on their website. 

Make Monday: Make It A Classy Summer/Pregnancy

With the warmer weather coming, I've been thinking, how am I going to keep cool? I'm not due with this baby until August! My youngest son was born (in the super heat) of early July, so I've already made it through a June before...but July, August? It's going to be hot.

What I know I won't be doing is exposing myself. You probably just chuckled at that, didn't you? But isn't that what we do when we wear a two piece? I think being pregnant is a beautiful thing, HOWEVER, are we not told to be modest by the Bible?

I came across an article, written by a friend of mine and I have to agree with everything she writes. Since I've been married, I haven't worn a two piece. You don't need to wear a bikini to swim, a one piece suit does just fine. The only thing a bikini does is cause men to lust after you. And as a married woman who takes her vows seriously, this is something I want to avoid.

She writes, "Another issue to consider is that God calls all people to control their thought lives, so as women, we should not cause men to lust: "You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Matthew 5:27-29). When we cause men to look upon our bodies lustfully, we are inducing them to commit the sin of lust and this is displeasing to God."

I think this falls under the "exposed belly" pregnancy pictures category as well. If the pictures are for your personal family album, fine. If you post them to the internet? No. Once they're out there, anyone can snag them, sell them and use them for unintended purposes. Were you aware there are men who have a pregnancy fetish? I don't understand it, but it does exist. As a married woman and mother, I think it is wrong (and displeasing to God who has blessed you with a child) to expose your body in a manner that may cause others to lust upon you.

So if you see me this summer, know that I'll be wearing a top and shorts to keep cool. No belly exposed. Yes, it will be hot...but if one does not follow the letter of the Lord, it is hotter, well...you know where.

"D is for DRUMS!"

My second son turned three on Friday and we had his party on Saturday. I had posted a picture of him playing drums earlier in the week on my Facebook and said "This kid needs a drum set". Thankfully, a friend mentioned he had a drum set for kids that he was looking to give away. I was willing to take it off of his hands. My husband thought I was kidding. I went to the Guitar Center and asked for "a set of drumsticks for a three year old." The kid behind the counter asked me "how long has he been playing?" Really? He's three. He still wears diapers! But boy, did he love the drums. Our neighbor claims she can't hear them (amazing) and the sticks go on top of the fridge when we don't want him to play/need quiet time. Here's some video...I call it a win.

Spring Break!

Hello and thank you Mommy's Recess readers! Between the birth of a child (and recovery) of one author, a pregnancy of the other author, birthdays and life in general, Mommy's Recess has been on a much needed spring break! We will get back to posting soon! Thank you all for reading!

Tip Tuesday: Keep That Baby IN!

I'm so thankful today. I've hit the 20 week mark of pregnancy. And as I posted to my Facebook account, I'm halfway there. With the scares we had early on (being on restrictions and considered high risk) I'm so thankful.

Yes, pregnancy IS 40 weeks. Don't let anyone tell you different. Now, if you've had a medical reason, like my co-author and her gestational diabetes, that's different.

I had a chat with my mother in law's neighbor the other day. She, too, is expecting. But it's her first. And she said to me, "You're so lucky! You'll be scheduled. I'm such a planner, I'm hoping my doctor will schedule me too, a few weeks early since it'll be hot."

And if you know me, you know it took everything in me not to punch her in the nose.

Babies are not on YOUR schedule, you're on theirs. And the sooner you figure that out, the better. I found out the hard way, with my first. We were due November 15th. That day came and went. People were even asking why I wasn't at the hospital having him. Ummm...because he's not ready?

Liam finally arrived, ELEVEN days late, and only after some coaxing. AFTER his due date came and went, we tried the driving over the train tracks trick (and got yelled at by my Doc), spicy foods...nothing worked. He just wasn't ready to come. When he finally did, my mother (a nurse) was upset because she could tell he was WAY overdue. And you could tell. They had to add amniotic fluid and his skin was dry and wrinkled. He had almost no vernix left.

It breaks my heart to see babies born at 28, 30, 32 weeks and have to spend time in the NICU. It even breaks my heart to see babies born at 36 weeks when they get sick shortly after they're born...because they just weren't ready.

I don't care if you're uncomfortable, suck it up. I don't care if it's hot. Women have been hot for thousands of years (without air conditioning, mind you) and managed. You can too. My youngest was born in July. It was hot. I was miserable. And I had back labor at home for a full day before going in...because he just wasn't ready. This baby is due in August. It will be hot. But I won't be going in early just because I'M miserable. Because guess what, it's not about ME. It's about the health of my baby.

Suck it up. Put your big girl panties on. Be a mother and think about what is best for your kids, not what works for you.

I've always had my Docs wait until I go into labor. And I do. They don't run the show, I don't run the show. It's my baby's birthday. And HE will decide when HE'S ready to come.

Make Monday: Make It Natural

What can I say? I've been on a natural kick lately. I saw a news report on Fox News that talked about how we're "poisoning" our pregnant women (me, eeep) and our children. And I kind of freaked out. They were tying it in with the increase in ADHD in our children. Again, eep.

So what is the culprit? There are many, but one is our cleaning products. Yes. The theory is our cleaning products are poisoning us (yes, they used the word poison). We do so many things when pregnant to make sure we're healthy and it's the cleaning products that are harming us? That was enough for me to research more natural methods.

If you're a regular reader of the blog, I posted a few weeks ago about how I've been using fresh lemons and limes to clean. Honestly, my house has never been cleaner or smelled better. And I don't have to worry about the chemicals affecting me, my boys or my unborn child.

I bought a steam cleaning mop off of woot during their last woot-off and instead of the Swiffer wet to clean our wood and tile floors, I tried the steam mop. It was so easy, did such a great job and left the floors cleaner (more clean?) than I've ever seen. And again, no chemicals.

I've been trying to live by the phrase "research then react". Seems to be working for me. Have you tried natural cleaning methods in your home? What has worked for you?

Wash Wednesday: Silica Gel Packets for Freshness

So I am finally making my way through the loads of laundry that comes with a newborn. Actually, I must admit that my mom has helped us this week catch up and more importantly find the washer and dryer again underneath massive piles of dirty laundry.

I forgot how much laundry a tiny person can produce. The tiniest person in the house almost makes the most laundry and most certainly doubles your wash input. I find though that one of my favorite chores is to fold all the cute little clothes and put them away.

At least I had all her clothes washed and ready beforehand as recommended on the new baby checklist. I must have done at least a half dozen loads of just newborn clothes (all the clothes everyone was so gracious to give us), sheets, burp cloths, towels, and so on.

And I must have washed each of these loads twice beforehand due to unseen silica gel packet exploding in the wash. At first I was confused over these little beads that seemed to fall out of the clothes when I took them out of the dryer. I had my husband come over and look and he identified them as the freshness beads that come with new clothes. Yes, these beads had secretly made their way through the wash only to swell up and explode out of the packet. Unfortunately I did not discover them until I finished my second load of baby clothes.

After doing some research, I discovered that these beads can be irritable to the skin. When I read this I got mad that some company even considered putting something semi dangerous with infant clothes, causing potential harm to a newborn.

To solve this problem, I took some vinegar and washed out the washing machine on a hot cycle. I also ran the dryer and cleaned the lent trap. Then I rewashed all my infant clothes again to remove any unwanted particles from the clothes to keep them delicate to baby's skin.

So I am here to warn you once again, look through all your new clothes. Remove tags, clean out pockets, and beware of silica packets. It may take you a few extra minutes to do this but it will save you some time and money washing more loads of laundry. And at the very most, it will save your family members from breaking out from a potential hazardous material.

Toy Thursday: Turning Cleaning Into A Game

Yes...I did it. I made cleaning fun. The last couple of days I've talked about using lemons and limes to clean, so I thought I'd try the bathtub cleaning I came across. I sliced my lemons and limes, put them in the tub with cold water and let it sit.

I thought the ducks could use a good citrus soak as well.

Liam was not wanting to go to bed, at all. I was exhausted. I knew I needed to drain and scrub the tubs. So I had him help me.

He thought it was fun to squeeze he juice that remained in the lemons and limes, and when we drained the water, he thought it was fun to take a rag and scrub. I was amazed at how easily the soap scum lifted (even with his 6 year old elbow grease). And the bathroom smelled SO good.

The best part? It wore him out. By the second bathtub, he was tired. And he went to bed (willingly)...and slept in!

However, I should note that I took a shower shortly after we had cleaned the tub and I'm not sure if it was the juice or the lifted gunk, but the tub was a little slippery. So be careful!

Wash Wednesday: Cleaning WITHOUT Chemicals

In yesterday's post, I explained how fresh lemons and limes can be used as decoration...but don't just toss them out! You can use them to clean! Yes, cleaning WITHOUT chemicals. It's the best. And since you've already bought the fruit for "decorations" it's a bonus. No other expensive chemicals to buy! And it's the best for your family (especially if you have small children)!

After the lemons lost their color and needed to be replaced, it was time for my kitchen sink to get a good scrub down. I plugged the sink and I cut up the lemons. I took the end pieces to scrub the gunk off of the sink (stuck on soap) and was amazed that the lemon rind was even taking the water spots off of the faucet. It took almost zero elbow grease to work up the stuck on stuff (the soap sticky under the dispenser) and smelled great.

When I was done, I put all of the lemon (and lime) rinds in the sink and boiled some water in my teapot. I poured the boiling water in the sink with the leftover decorations and scrubbers (aka lemons and limes) and let it sit. It made the whole house smell like fragrant citrus.

When the water had cooled, I picked the larger pieces out of the sink and put them in the garbage where they continued their work to make the trash actually smell good! With two in diapers, that is saying a lot!

I allowed the smaller rinds to go down the garbage disposal and it helped "unstink" the disposal as well.

While I haven't tried this, I did find that you can even use lemons to clean your bathtub!

So why buy chemicals (seriously, next time read the ingredients on your cleaner...you can choose that...or just lemons and hot water) that smell "like" lemons when you can use the REAL thing...and no harmful chemicals??

How have you used natural items for cleaning?? Please share in the comments!

Tip Tuesday: Decorating With Fresh Fruit

I love the fresh fruit decorations...but I dislike plastic fruit. So last week I picked up some fresh lemons and limes and put them in clear flower vases. It makes for a fragrant, pretty addition to my kitchen.

Stay tuned to tomorrow's "Wash Wednesday" post on how to use the lemons to clean!

Food Friday: St. Patrick's Day Meal

Now, if you're Catholic you can't make this tonight...but you can sure have it tomorrow! It's my Corned Beef and Cabbage in the crock (how easy can it get) pot. I posted it before on Mommy's Recess but it's too good not to share again!

Super yummy, super easy and super Irish (American). Enjoy!

Toy Thursday: A Toy For The Sibling

First I want to say Congrats to my co-author Emma for having a beautiful baby girl yesterday. That reminded me of how important it is to make sure her older son feels included in all of the attention.

Every time a friend has a baby, I always get the baby a gift (of course) but I always try to get something for the older sibling(s). Every time my husband and I have a new baby, we make sure the older brothers get a present "from the baby" so they don't feel left out when the baby gets all of the new clothes, toys etc.

Becoming an older sibling is an adjustment. While it's easy to shower gifts on a cute squishy newborn, it's just as important to make sure the older siblings feel involved and included.

Wash Wednesday: Keeping The Cold Germs Away

It's spring (well, not officially) but with the last couple of nice days we've had, it sure feels like it. And it seems that everyone is dealing with the colds. My husband had a sinus infection a couple of weeks ago, and a 10 day treatment of antibiotics took care of it.

Thankfully none of my kids fell terribly ill this winter/spring and I attribute it to being able to control the temperature of our home. Yes, you can kill germs with Lysol and Clorox wipes, but why let them grow?

When we lived at our apartment, it would get WAY too hot, thus incubating the germs and we were sick more often. There were nights, even when it was snowing out, that I'd have the heat off and a window open. Because I know that heat allows bacteria and viruses to grow. Cold slows them down. Think about it. Your refrigerator is cold, right? Because cold temperatures slow the growth of bacteria and viruses.

My house thermostat never gets set above 72 degrees. That's a rule. If you're cold, you put on a blanket. Our house uses geothermal heat and we've got it set to go to 62 at night. You're under blankets anyway, right? Why have it so hot in the house? It's just incubating germs. Studies have shown that your body falls into a deeper, more restful sleep when you're cooler as well. Deeper sleep also helps your immune system. Win, win, win.

Lower your thermostat. Save a little green in both heating and Doctor bills (and save the environment while you're at it). And don't be afraid to open the windows. As my mom says, "A little fresh air never killed anyone."

Tip Tuesday: Monitoring those Contractions!

At 38 weeks pregnant, yes, I have had a few contractions. Nothing major yet. I remember though when I was pregnant with Judah having contractions and trying to keep track of them.

My husband was a very nice support system the first time around (and is now too). It was on Wednesday afternoon when I started having contractions after a short nap that I had taken. I patiently waited until he came home from work and immediately we started timing them as they became more intense and regular.

Somewhere we had found this really neat tool that allowed us to time our contractions and monitor their regularity. So my husband had his computer nearby opened to Contraction Master. Throughout the evening he would wait for me to say when a contraction was starting and then hit the space bar. The timer would start and he would then hit the space bar again as soon as the contraction was over.

By the time we went into the hospital at 3:00am, we had several sheets printed off of contraction records which had finally gotten to 1 minute long every five minutes for several hours. This made it easy on the hospital staff as they immediately assumed their roles.

The web site made it so much easier to time contractions. While we timed them, we simply stayed relaxed and watched several movies. I had my homemade heating pack (old sock filled with rice that had been microwaved) and sat with my feet up.

And my husband (who loves technology) felt like part of the process with his timer keeping track of those contractions. It was his contribution to the process.

As a side note, review with your doctor when you need to go to the hospital. Instances where your water breaks, regular, intense contractions for 1 minute, every five minutes, for over an hour are reasons to seek medical help.

Shuffle Saturday: Company with New Baby!

Now that I am 38 weeks pregnant, we are making the final preparations for new baby. Things have been crazy around our house as a result. My husband has been trying to squeeze in last minute things at work in order to take two weeks off. Then both my husband and Judah got sick with that fever/cold that has been going around.

I have been fortunate to have extra help lately by so many people. Our neighbors have offered to babysit Judah a few times so that we can run extra errands and have a date night. We have some friends that offered to bring a meal early. And the grandmas have helped watch Judah. My mother-in-law took him a few weekends ago to the farm for us to have some catch up time at home and my own mom came down this last week to babysit and do laundry.

So we are juggling the last few items on our list. Our shuffle Saturday has been filled with rest and running a few last minute errands. We are also getting the house ready for our family that is coming to help watch Judah while we are at the hospital.

All this has me thinking about new baby and all the company that seems to come with it. From my previous experience, we had the grandmas come to help and a lot of people brought meals. On top of that we had a number of people want to see baby. This was nice but also very exhausting.

Among new moms there seems to be this debate: do you have help come or do you enjoy your time alone with new baby? Of course my perspective has changed since I do need the help this time to take care of Judah, especially after a c-section. You also have to ask yourself what kind of help do you need and for how long.

I will say this. The best advice from last time is limit the number of visitors in the hospital. In part due to my complications I was restricted for having visitors for the first 24 hours after my surgery. The sign posted on the door continued to stay up the rest of the week only allowing doctors and nurses to enter. Then the last day before we went home, we took it down, and we had a day full of visitors which totally exhausted me from recovering.

I would like to hear your thoughts new moms based on your own experiences of what worked, what did not, and how would you do it differently.

Food Friday: Cheap Pizza!

Are you a deal seeker? Do you like pizza? Have I got a deal for you!

I volunteer with a non-profit group and we're selling Domino's Pizza books. Each book contains 24 Buy 1 Large Pizza, get 1 Medium Pizza FREE and 7 Buy Large Pizza, get 1 order of Breadsticks FREE coupons! That means you will save over $250 on just one book!!! The best thing is, you have plenty of time to use them because they don't expire until 12/31!

These books usually sell for $10 a piece but we're offering a buy one, get one deal. Just visit this siteand scroll down to the pizza offer. When you click the link, enter 1 in the quantity and we'll send you two!

Tip Tuesday: Special PARTY Favor Ideas!

Now that spring is upon us, many people are gearing up for parties of all kinds. Baby Showers, wedding showers, weddings, birthdays, and Easter to name a few spring occasions. And if you are like me, you are looking for party ideas that are original and special for such special occasions.

I was cleaning out the back of my freezer recently and discovered I had saved some packages of M&M's. These were not ordinary M&M's though. These were special packages specifically ordered to be used to celebrate different life events.

I still had some blue and green ones from when my husband proposed to me. I love peanut M&M's, making them probably my most favorite candy. As a back up plan to the carriage ride we took, my husband had ordered directly from the company, M&M's that said (in our favorite colors) "will you marry me" and our initials on them. He then took these and carefully added them to a package of peanut M&M's before skillfully repackaging the bag back together. I was surprised and of course I said, "yes."



The theme stuck. So for our wedding we ordered as part of the cake table, M&M's in our purple and green wedding colors, M&M's to celebrate the special day. Then later on, we again ordered pink and blue M&M's to hand out to the prospective grandparents to tell them we were expecting a baby.



When I cleaned out my freezer, I did finally throw away the M&M's after five plus years. My son snatched a few while I took pictures of them to remember them. The special sentiment though will last forever in my heart and memory.

If you are looking for an original idea to share with someone special, consider customizing your own M&M sayings. Order a short, clean saying in colors of your choice to be shipped to your house for your special occasion. It is easy, fun, and definitely original!

Salvation Sunday: A Kind Word Goes a Long Way!

Do you ever remember a time when someone came along with a kind word at the most opportune time in your life? I can think of a few times during my own life journey where someone (usually a mentor, a friend, or someone special) gave profound advice or simply a kind word that changed my general outlook on life. In essence this person offered me hope by reminding me of the important things in life.

Without these words which are still with me to this day, I cannot say for sure where I would be. These words lifted me up and encouraged me along my struggles. These words kept me accountable from doing more harm. These words spoke love and compassion in an often hopeless filled world.

The cool thing is once these words were spoken, they gave me renewed life. And that life became contagious. After kind words, it is easy to pass on a cheerfulness to others. The opposite is true too. Ugly, mean words can tear us down filling us with despair that seems to loom in a halo around us.

God's words are the source of a hope-filled life. His words bring freshness, hope, and cheerfulness like none other. And because of hope-filled words, we can pass on a lifestyle of happiness to others in the forms of words.

Proverbs 25:11 says, "Timely advice is lovely, like golden apples in a silver basket." Try saying something nice to those around you today.

Shuffle Saturday: Treating YOURSELF

This has been a crazy week. Just crazy. Work, kids, what's been going on in the news...the weather? Crazy.

So I took some time and treated myself. I took the boys to Grandmas and went and got a pedicure.

While I won't be able to take part in the drinking of the spirits this year on St. Patrick's Day, I can at least look good being the designated driver. :)

I love pedicures. To have someone tend to my sore, tired, achy feet? Yes please. All while I sip on a bottle of water and watch TV in a massage chair? I'm so there.

I have green toes!!!

It's important for moms to take a break, even if it's only an hour or two. I'll admit, I felt guilty on the way there but on the way back I was so refreshed and ready to be a better wife and mother. All because of a little warm water and nail polish.

Food Friday: Gestational Diabetes Approved Recipe - Alfredo Sauce

A few weeks ago I posted a meal for Chicken Alfredo. This menu proved acceptable for those with gestational diabetes or who have gluten allergies since I used spaghetti squash instead of regular noodles. I dug around some more for an Alfredo sauce that would go.

I found this great recipe that yes is high in calories but is low in sodium and carbs. According to my doctor, I can cheat with calories elsewhere since I am cutting carbs (this will help me be more full). The lower amount of sodium is noticeably different compared to a jar of Alfredo sauce, making this a nice addition to the recipe.

Here is the review that came with the recipe which I wholeheartedly agree: "This by far is the easiest and best Alfredo sauce recipe I have found yet! I love pasta and Alfredo and searched forever to make it homemade. I think that too many recipes have too many ingredients and that others are too watery. My girlfriend loves it and makes me cook it at least once a week... plus you can add it to so many different things! This is a great, simple recipe to make for someone coming over for a dinner date."

Alfredo Sauce Ingredients
1/2 cup butter
1 pkg. (8 oz.) cream cheese
1 cup half and half
1/3 cup Parmesan cheese
1 tablespoon garlic powder (optional)
pepper, to taste

Instructions
Cook together in a pan on the stove. Add some liquid to rewarm the sauce up for leftovers to
keep it from getting too thick.

Toy Thursday: Playing with your Food

What is it about kids playing with their food? I remember my mom always telling my younger siblings to stop playing with their food or swinging their arms at the table. If something spilled because of carelessness, then we got in trouble at the table. And now I find myself doing the same thing.

Judah is definitely in that stage where food becomes center stage for all kinds of pretend ideas and creative imagination. And most of the time this results in a mess all over himself, the table, and even the floor much to my dismay.

His new thing is to pretend that food are some characters from a movie. We have a Winnie-the-Pooh noodle, a Piglet noodle, and a Tigger noodle. I am not sure if Kraft Macaroni (Cars) gave us this idea or not. One night we just could not get Judah to eat and so we said, let's pretend to find so and so and it worked. He played along and got the calories in him that he needed that day.

This imaginary meal play works well when you want to get him to eat as you can play along and concoct up ideas to stir the imagination. For instance, to get him to eat his peas we talk about using his spoon (the loader) to load up the dump truck in his mouth. Or try to munch his broccohli like Peter Rabbit. We even pretend that sweet potato is orange pie because it is sweet.

This does not work so well when they push the limits on creativity. When they know they are not supposed to do something, pretend suddenly becomes an alibi to get away with it. This would include splattering milk across the table at breakfast from the cereal bowl because it is snow or finger painting in the peanut butter making shapes.

So where do you draw the line. You want your kid to be creative. And you certainly want your kid to eat as in our case since Judah lost so much weight from being sick and needs to gain the calories. Yet, at what age do you implement table manners to include no playing with your food.

I guess we try to eat with our spoon. We say please and thank you and may I be excused. We wipe up and try to sit down to eat. And we always have to take at least a taste of what is on the table. I feel like that is a start until we are older even though my mom would have a fit. Still, kids have an imagination all their own.

From one mom to another, I would love to hear your stories and ideas.

Tip Tuesday: A GOOD Hotel in the Minneapolis Area

This past weekend my family and I went on an impromptu trip to Minneapolis. We wanted to look at furniture at IKEA and take the kids to the Mall of America. I went on hotels.com looking for a room that was nice, inexpensive and close to the mall.

I was lucky enough to book a Hampton Inn and Suites, only .5 miles from the mall and included free wireless, a pool and free breakfast for only $99 a night. But it was worth so much more.

First off, we got there late and they hadn't given our room away (like my husband feared). The beds were SO soft. The next morning, breakfast was awesome. Scrambled eggs, waffles, yogurt, cereal, doughnuts, bagels, sausages, apple and orange juice and milk...it was great.

We spent all day (7 hours) at the Mall of America. When we returned, the kids were pleased to see their "babies" (fluffy the dog, Buzz Lightyear and Cabbage Patch doll) lined up on their made bed. We decided to hit the pool--just to wear the kids out a bit more. After the pool, I asked the front desk for a place they could suggest for pizza. They handed me a flier for a local pizza joint with coupons! SCORE! I also asked if it would be possible to wash out the kids cups (we had bought at the Disney Store). Not only did they let me use their kitchen area to wash out the cups, they also informed me that I could get milk from the kitchen area for the kids!

The next morning, breakfast didn't disappoint. They had added French Toast Sticks to the menu. YUM! With a family of five, free breakfast saves us at least $40/day!

Check out was a breeze...and they offered late check out of 11 AM. Next time we go to Minneapolis, we'll be sure to stay at the Hampton Inn and Suites near the Airport/Mall of America.

Salvation Sunday: God can use anyone!

So this morning, I was reading about the story of Moses from the Bible. You remember the Israelite leader who delivered his people from Egyptian slavery to a land of promise. I came to the part of the story where a young Moses killed an Egyptian before running to the wilderness to hide.

The story then proceeded to go on as God picked Moses to lead His chosen people out of Egypt. Through this story I was once more reminded how God can take anyone or any evil and turn it into something good.

Just think. Moses was a murderer and yet God chose him to be His leader. I find this fascinating not because it is an excuse for bad behavior but because God takes ordinary people, offers mercy, and calls them into a life of service. The story reveals God's way of grace. He reminds us that we cannot achieve redemption on our own but rather through total obedience and surrender turn our lives around for His glory.

I think it is interesting that the Bible also mentions that Moses ran away to hide from Pharaoh. This is like running away from God after we sinned. God can still find us wandering in the wilderness, right where we are at, and pick us up to redeem us. So why bother hiding.

No one is exempt if we are willing to follow. Other examples in the Bible include Abraham, David, and Paul. Abraham was an old man with a past history of false god worship. David was a murderer and an adulterer. Paul condemned Christians who walked in faith. All these stories prove that God can take the least unexpected person and turn their lives around. How unlikely that these people be chosen in the first place, right?

And why were they chosen by God. First, they represent that nothing is impossible by God; God chooses the most unlikely scenario/person so that we know that it is not the man who made it successful but God who made it successful. Second, they point to God's fulfillment of grace; God forgives sin not matter how bad a past or sin can be. And last, they bring glory to God and His perfect plan.

Our response must be that of repentance and openness to God's working in our lives. Then we follow in obedience, stepping out in faith. Only then can we be used by God.

Toy Thursday: Homemade Doodle Board

Judah and I have been playing with our homemade doodle board the last few days to pass the time. This is another activity that can be used simply for fun or to add as a tool for learning. It is super easy to put together and the results are endless.

I found the idea off of Pinterest at the Hippie Housewife. To make our own though I used washable finger paints in a Ziploc freezer bag taped down by clear packing tape onto our plastic table cloth (use blue painter's tape directly to wood table). To do this I poured a generous amount of primary colors into the different areas of the bag. We noticed the more paint you use the more fun you have. Before taping the bag down, I smoothed out any and all air bubbles. I used a light color piece of paper underneath to brighten the background and to catch any messes that may happen. Then I sealed the edges of the paper and the bag off with packing tape.


Judah understood the concept right away as he mixed the colors together like finger painting only mess free. To make designs, you take your finger and draw lines through the paint. To erase your drawings, just lightly smooth out the paint. This is how we doodled our letters and shapes as well as made hand prints. Judah then pretended it was mud and drove his trucks over the bags for road effects.

We left the doodle boards up for several days so that Judah could go back to it to play. We did have one scratch and I simply taped over it with clear packing tape. The colors mixed together. Since the paint remained wet inside the bag, you could totally undo the doodle board and use the paint for a real finger paint project.

Tip Tuesday: Check list for New Baby

Since I am almost week 36 pregnant, I decided it is time to go through a check-list for the new baby. Here is a list I used from a friend during my first pregnancy I thought I would review. And of course, based on my previous experience, I took some away and added a few other items. Please share from your own experiences what items you would include or not include and why.

These are the must have items you should have before baby arrives.

1. Crib with at least 2 sets of crib sheets and waterproof pads. You do not need a bumper or a baby positioner for baby as they are unsafe.
2. Mobile to hang over crib
3. Chest of drawers
4. Diaper pail, Diaper Genie for disposables
5. Changing table with a changing pad and 2 pad covers
   
6. A good night light
7. A clock with indigo light to see what time it is in the wee morning hours
8. A comfy rocking chair
9. Lots of receiving blankets. Consider the size of the swaddle blankets as the ones in the store are way too small for swaddling. Also I could not have done without my Halo Sleepsacks which relieved nighttime fears of blankets falling over babies face.
   
10. Boppy pillow or I actually prefer My Best Friend Delux (for post-Ceseran recovery as it sits high above your incision and allows you the ability to do several feeding positions).
    
11. A vibrating bouncy chair
12. Diaper cream, Infant Tylenol, Infant Gas Drops, and safety and hygiene kit with an Emory board and nail clippers and a working thermometer.
13. Baby bath tub and baby wash clothes/towels for tub.
    
14. Diaper bag or I actually prefer a baby back pack to free your hands when unloading the car.
    
15. Breast pump if you are pumping - If you do not work outside the home, I would consider a Medela Swing Pump as it is convenient to store in your diaper bag for traveling. Then consider renting a double pump machine for the first few weeks after your hospital stay until your milk production goes down to allow you to store enough milk in the freezer. When you rent a machine, you will buy brand new tubes (which you will need for you own machine anyways) making it totally sanity.
    
16. Breast pads - I like the disposable Johnson and Johnson cotton inserts that fit into your bra so you do not leak all over.
    
17. Lanisol cream for you breast if you are breast feeding
    
18. Breast milk storage bags and marker
    
19. 4 - 6 ounce bottles (if breast feeding) - Most lactation consultants at the hospital start you on a certain brand like Avent. Take your cue from them before purchasing your own set of bottles as babies respond differently to the different nipples.
    
20. A container for the dishwasher to wash bottles and drying rack for bottles that sits on the counter. We also used our bottle warmer quite often on our second story but not that it is not necessary to have.
    
21. Stroller based on your needs - I recommend a jogger if you exercise frequently. Otherwise, consider one that fits with your car seat for daily use. Remember to make sure that it fits in the trunk of your car and you can open it with one hand as you may have the kid on the other.
    
22. Car seat - I would recommend getting a car seat base for each of your cars. Never buy a used car seat because you do not know if it has been in an accident or meets all the safety requirements. Also, keep in mind after a number of years, your car seat will actually expire and by kid number three you may need to buy a new seat.
    
23. A car seat cover for the winter.
    
24. Baby monitor - We prefer a video monitor that we can hook up our smart phone and computer too.
    
25. A sling to carry baby around.
    
26. 2-3 nursing bras - I suggest not buying them until right before your due date as your bust size does change. Consider getting fitted at your local hospital boutique before leaving for home to find the most comfortable size and fit. I prefer Bravado Designs as they were the most comfortable with the back pain I experienced my cesarean.
    
27. 1-2 pacifiers
28. 2-3 packages of 0-3 month onsies
29. 3-4 packages of 3-6 month onsies
30. 2-5 pairs of pants
31. baby socks
32. baby hat
33. 4-5 sleepers - I like the nightgowns for newborns as it is easier to change their diapers
34. Baby book and/or first year calendar - I like to have them available at the hospital to do an extra set of footprints directly into the baby book.
    
35. Outfit to bring baby home from the hospital as well as comfortable clothes for mom to go home in. I suggest a dress or skirt for post-ceserean if you incision is still painful and sore.
    
36. Burp Clothes
37. Diapers - I recommend the Pampers Swaddles for newborns because the yellow line changes colors after the diaper has been wet.
    

These Items are really nice to have on hand but I recommend borrowing them from a friend or family member for storage reasons. Please note that each baby is different and may not always take to one of these items anyways.

1. Bassinet and bassinet sheets
   
2. A swing

These items are nice to have or again borrow but you do not need them right away.

1. Exersaucer
2. Baby Bjorn
3. Exercise/play mat
4. High chair
5. Pack and play
6. Bath toys
7. CDs of lullabies
8. Toys- rattles, teethers, blocks, rings, books
9. Cute lamp for the nursery

Things to do before baby arrives

1. Chose a pediatrician before baby arrives
   
2. Try and get your nursery done before you are 7 months pregnant
3. Make meals to freeze
4. Stock up on 1-2 months worth of : toilet paper, paper towels, soap, shampoo, razors, 1month supply of maxi pads (with wings), dish soap, diapers and wipes, rice/pasta, frozen vegetables, bread (can freeze), etc.
5. Consider hiring a cleaning service
   
6. Consider buying a digital camera, video recorder
7. Consider a mini vacation before your bundle of joy arrives
8. Starting thinking about who might babysit for you
9. Have the car seat bases installed a few weeks before you are due
10. Get thank yous done before baby arrives if possible
11. If you think you might need daycare, start looking now
12. Start looking at places where you might want to get baby pictures taken
13. Wash all baby clothes in gentle detergent prior to having baby
    

Salvation Sunday: Thankful for Our Readers

Believe it or not, Mommy's Recess is International. Occasionally I'll check the stats of our blog and was surprised at how many people from different Countries read our blog.

In the last month alone, our stats, broken down by Country are below.

United States 5,882

China 216

United Kingdom 184

Canada 142

Russia 114

Ukraine 97

Germany 79

Philippines 58

Australia 53

India 43

Wow. This is only ONE MONTH of posts. Awesome. We are so thankful for our readers! Thank you all for reading and making Mommy's Recess a success!

Shuffle Saturday: Depression is Not a Dirty Word, Part II

Tis that time of year for most people to have the winter blues. And even though the weather has been generously nice this year, I still sense a lot of friends who seem "down and out" depressed. Depression can be hard to shake but rest assured you can shake it with a little help. I am proof of that.

Most people do not know that I suffered from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder right after Judah was born almost three years ago. Anytime someone feels like they are going to die as in my case when my blood pressure took a nosedive in post Cesarean recovery, you can develop symptoms of stress.

I had experienced depression before. The symptoms remain the same: extreme fatigue, feeling trapped in a spiral downturn with little room for air, irrational thoughts, dark and anxious, emotionally unstable, and the inability to want to do any of your favorite things with your favorite people. Sound familiar. Even my co-author has told her story about depression in part one.

This time Post Traumatic Stress seemed different. I could not sleep and became extremely irritable and anxious. I discovered I would have panic attacks every time I closed my eyes to go to sleep. If I did fall asleep, when I woke up and felt disoriented as to where I was, I would have another panic attack. On top of that I experienced post partum depression because I felt like I could not take care of my baby in this manner. Not fun.

Thankfully I was surrounded by people who loved and cared for me. I realized that you do not need to feel ashamed about getting help or feel guilty for being like this. At some point in our lives, I believe we all go through this. And if managed correctly, we come out on the other side better people.

Here are a few tips that worked for me in coping with stress, anxiety, and depression. I have been through it and know it sucks. I pray that you may find the peace and hope you desperately need during this time as a result of knowing that you are not alone in coping.

1. Seek help immediately. Your loved ones need to be aware of what is going on. And do not be afraid to ask for professional help when needed such as a pyschologist or doctor who prescribe medicine. The longer you wait for help, the harder it will be to cope and come out of depression.

From my previous experience with depression, I immediately saw the symptoms the second time and sought help almost within a few weeks of it starting. I also knew the anxiety was different and so professional help was able to help me figure out what the problem was and how to handle it right away. I know the journey would have been longer and harder had I not admitted I needed help right away.

2. Avoid additional stress. Reduce added stress in your life for a while. Remove all other distractions from your daily schedule. One of the best things I did the first time I was depressed, thanks to the advice of a friend, was limit my daily schedule to only necessary things that had to be done. I also removed those things that seemed to agitate me more until a later time of healing.

3. Take time for yourself. Try to do something for yourself that you think is fun or sounds fun no matter how simple it is. After the baby was born, my family, at the advice of my doctor, tried to get me out of the house on occasions without the baby to prove that life goes on.

4. Set small goals for yourself without expecting huge, immediate results. At one point, I literally had to set goals to get through parts of the day. When my husband went back to work, I had to know exactly when he would come home for lunch and I would focus on getting through those few hours before thinking about the rest of the day when I would start the process over. Also, we learned that certain sights and smells can trigger certain emotions. To counter that, we rearranged the furniture and slept in a different room for a while. Over time, the emotions became less and less as life returned to normal.

5. Pray and Pray. About a year ago, I talk about the power of God when dealing with depression. Please read "Do not be Afraid." Without God, I would never have come out of my anxiety. This is perhaps the most important tip to cope with anxiety.

Again, realize you are not alone. You do not have to feel guilty for feeling this way.