Tip Tuesday: Cover the Couch!

We walked in the door last night from our long weekend out of town with family and friends. Whenever we do so, we come home to find the couches covered with tarp. Since my brothers were waiting on our front porch last night to eat supper with us, they uncovered and folded up the green tarp, moving back the couches.

Several years back on our two week long road trip out west, in spite of a house sitter, we discovered that our cat, Maestro like to mess on the couch. He became nervous while we packed for the anticipated camping road trip with bags and supplies strewn across the floor. At this time he developed a behavioral pattern of using the couch as a litter box to let us know he was upset with us leaving town.

So anytime we are gone out of town, we push the couches together and throw a big tarp over them blocking off the bottoms so that he cannot access them in any way. We also make sure the bedroom doors are closed (just in case). Then we clean out his litter box and stock him up on food and water.

A few months ago, this tarp actually saved our hides. We did not notice that Judah had closed the bathroom door on our way out of the house. We came back to a horrid smell but at least our couches were still usable and clean. The tarp, on the other hand, made its way out to the trash.

Another time, we forgot to stock Maestro up on extra food and water for a weekend. That weekend we came home to find that he had actually pulled off a couple of our books from the bookshelves to chew on the paper. We had to clean up little, ripped pieces of paper all over the floor.

Animals/pets can be funny when it comes to letting you know how they feel. My tip today is be prepared for the worst. Being prepared and resourceful will save you time and energy cleaning up and money trying to replace your couches.

Do you have any funny stories about your pets while you are gone?

Make Monday: Make It Memorable

On Memorial Day, we decided to visit the grave sites of those who have inspired us.

We ventured to Woodland Cemetery in Des Moines and laid flowers at the grave of the family who built the barn we're trying to save from demolition.

I taught my son that at one time, all of the headstones were someone. They were people who shaped our city, our state and our country. They were someone's mothers and fathers, sisters and brothers...and yes, even children. Liam chose to leave a flower at a little boy's stone, who was only 4 when he died.

Dying is a part of life. After experiencing the funeral of Great Grandpa Bob, my son knows about death. Having his dad over in Iraq when he was only two, he knew about the news, soldiers dying and the sacrifices soldiers made for us.

Make it Memorable on Memorial Day. Make it a learning experience.

Salvation Sunday: Making the Most!

So this week, stories have been pouring out of Joplin, MO, about the terrible twister from last week. A combination of horror and heroism permeate the survivors' new lives. And now the story is one of bravely moving forward in life, rebuilding. I am so thankful my own friend down in Joplin is safe.

While we need to keep praying for our friends in Joplin, we also need to realize how short life can be. In an instant, our life shatters turning everything familiar upside down.

We are left with those things that really matter: faith, family, and friends. Yet, so often those things are not attended too when life is going our way. Joplin is another reminder to all of us to make the most of every opportunity.

Ephesians 5:15-16 says, "Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil."

Colossians 4:5 also says, "Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity."

Take some time to spend this day with your family, enjoying them for this moment. Cultivate your faith before God with a renewed spirit and a contrite heart. Serve others cheerfully and wholeheartedly. Build your house on a solid foundation.

We never know when our life will be shattered! And in the end that is all meaningless; only what is left is what matters.

Shuffle Saturday: Sunscreen

With the official start of summer upon us, it is time for sunscreen. According to a recent review of the sunscreens on the market, the more expensive the sunscreen doesn't necessarily mean "better". The top 4 sunscreens, according to the testings are:

1. Up & Up Sport Continuous SPF 30, by Target. It is administered by spray and costs $0.88 per ounce.

2. Walgreens Sport Continuous SPF 50. Also a spray. Cost, $1.33 per ounce.

3. Banana Boat Sport Performance Continuous SPF 30. Spray. Cost, $1.60 per ounce.

4. Aveeno Continuous Protection SPF 50. Spray. Cost, $2 an ounce.

So safe money with the Up & Up spray. Make sure you cover every inch of skin (including the back of your legs...something I manage to forget) and just like on an airplane, take care of yourself first, and then administer it to your kids (something I forget often). Put sunscreen on yourself, then your kids. Have a safe and happy summer!

Food Friday: Banana Bread like Grandma makes it!

Every year growing up my family went to Ohio for vacation to see my relatives. Traveling seemed long riding in a big van with four younger siblings and my parents for twelve plus hours (that counts stops). We would arrive at Grandma's in time for a late night snack and bed. Almost like clock work, Grandma would fix a big breakfast the next morning for us weary travelers.

I call it a Grandma breakfast: scrambled eggs with sausage, toast, oatmeal, and home made banana bread! Oh how Grandma's banana bread tastes slightly toasted and slathered with butter. Add a glass of orange juice or milk and you have a Grandma meal, the best kind!

Last night I had six over ripe bananas sitting on my kitchen counter that screamed "eat me." I guess Judah has not been asking for them as much lately, so there they sat, almost black. That is when I decided to call up mom for Grandma's banana bread recipe.

The house smelled so good with the baking bread in the oven. I know it would have tasted better at Grandma's house, especially in her company, but it was still good. And I forgotten how relatively easy it was to make.

Banana Bread

1 stick (1/2 cup) stick of butter
1 cup of sugar
2 eggs
3 ripe bananas
2 cups flour
1 teaspoon baking soda
3 tablespoons milk
optional: walnuts

Directions

Melt butter and add sugar, mixing to a cream consistency. Add eggs and bananas until completely mashed. Next, add flour, milk, and baking soda, blending thoroughly. Pour batter into 2 greased and floured loaf pans. Bake in preheated oven at 350 degrees for 45 minutes. Remove from pan onto rack to cool.

Can I say, YUMMY! What special recipes remind you of your grandma?

Toy Thursday: It's MINE!

My house is chaos. I have a preschooler, a toddler and an infant (almost toddler) who thinks he can keep up with his older brothers. There is almost always someone screaming about something.

Toys are no different. A toy can be ignored for months but as soon as one of the three discover it, the other two want it. I hear my toddler screaming at the infant, "No B!" Or the preschooler screaming, "Sean is going to destroy it!" Or the infant crying because someone took a toy from his hands.

There isn't enough Aleve in the world. I don't want to wish away their childhood, but I look forward to the day that they're all buddies. You know, when they can't hang out with mom because they're doing a brother's golf afternoon (or something along those lines), or when one chooses the other two to be his best men when he gets married.

Okay, now I'm getting a little carried away.

But I know those days are a head of me. I also know that the days of some serious injuries are closer. Days when they really pound on each other even though in our home, "we don't hit".

So for now I'll attempt to diffuse the little fights. As my mom reminds me, "Little people, little problems. Big people, big problems." I can handle the toy fights. I usually just distract the "crier" with another "more cool" toy. And all is well.

Because I know the bigger they get, the bigger their problems will be.

Wash Wednesday: Ridding of Hazardous Waste!

I still cringe to this day when I think of my dad, dumping the leftover paint (from rinsing paintbrushes and tools) or used car oil on our country, gravel road, mixing it in the rock. Surely, there was a better option to dispose of the water-downed substance. Perhaps no other options existed then but they do today.

Thankfully, our cities today offer so many opportunities to care for the environment, including recycle. Most cities provide recycle bins to each household as an incentive to recycle standard products like plastics, glass, and paper. In turn, cities can make money off of collecting people's garbage. Cities even allow for yard waste pick-up as a means to recreate mulch for later purchase. Overall, cities have a number of environmentally safe methods and means to recycle these days.

Judah and I were reminded once again of the importance of recycling when we saw the public works vehicles and trucks at our nearby Farmers Market last week. I would not consider myself an environmentalist but rather a concerned citizen when it comes to my own garbage. So while Judah sat in the garbage truck, I found out when the next city-wide clean up days were.

Still do you ever wonder what to do with leftover paints and cleaners? There are some things in your household that do not belong in the trash, regular recycling, or even on the curb for scheduled clean-up days. So what do you do with these hazardous materials throughout your home and garage when you are done with them (or want to be done with them).

Check with your local waste management authority. Most communities provide a hazardous waste, scheduled drop-off for similar items mentioned below. So think twice before you throw these items in your trash. Instead, check with your community on how to properly dispose of such materials.

Home and Garden: Aerosol cans, Batteries (household), Brush killer, Concrete cleaners & etches Fertilizers, Fluorescent light bulbs/ballast, Fungicide, Furniture polish, Insect spray Mercury thermostats/thermometers, Metal polish (solvent-based), Mothballs, Pesticides, Pool chemicals, Rat, mouse and gopher poison, Rust removers, Spot remover, Wallpaper remover, Weed killer

Garage and Workshop: Aerosol cleaners, Antifreeze, Auto polish, Auto starter fluid, Brake fluid, Car wax, Carburetor cleaner, Caulk, Contact cement, Driveway sealer, Epoxy, Gasoline, Glues, Kerosene, Lighter fluid, Motor Oil, Oil filters (used), Paint remover, Paint thinner, Paint (oil-based and lead-based), Petroleum-based adhesives, Roofing tar,
Shellac, Stain, Varnish, Windshield washer solution

Kitchen and Bathroom: Polish remover, Toilet bowl cleaner, Ammonia-based cleaners, Cleaners (solvent-based) Drain cleaners, Floor care products, Oven cleaner

Our own community is doing their particular drop off date for hazardous materials on June 25. For a complete listing of Iowa communities teaming up with Metro Waste Authority, check out the "Clean-up Crew."

To learn more about how to dispose of medicine, read "Cleaning Out the Medicine Cabinet" as well as learn more about Iowa's Takeaway program.

Tip Tuesday: Teething Terror

How's that for alliteration? My English professors would be proud.

But teething is no joke. It can lead to a miserable baby, sleepless nights (for both the child and the parents) and unnecessary calls from your daycare provider to pick up your child. No, really.

When my kids were in daycare both in home and at a center, a temperature above 98.3, even though I informed them the baby was teething, would warrant a "come and pick him up--can't come back until he's fever free for 24 hours". Oye. What a PTO drain!

Don't get me wrong, when my kids are sick I have no problem picking them up, smothering them with cuddles and kisses and taking them to the Doctor. That's when they're sick. When they're teething and running a fever, that's a different story.

Kids run fevers while teething. Kids get runny diapers while teething (because of the increased snot and saliva, it all has to go somewhere). Kids are miserable while teething. I still remember the pain of my 12 year old molars. It was NOT fun. I can't imagine what a baby must be thinking--and I'm glad I don't remember teething. There is a reason God designed us the way he did. :)

So for the tip of the day; Don't fret. Teething (including fevers) is normal. Hyland teething tablets are great. No, they're wonderful. If you're weary about homeopathic medicine, you can always take a washcloth, run it under water and put it in the freezer for a few minutes. Let the babe chew on the cloth. I prefer this to the store bought teethers--I know that there isn't a harmful gel in my washcloth and water. There isn't a soon-to-be-recalled-causing-panic plastic, gel or tainted water in it. Washcloth and water is kind of like breastmilk. I know what's in it, it's free, it's easy.

I've survived two teethers and we're currently working on teeth with the third (he has seven teeth already)! While your mother may suggest whiskey on the gums ("it worked for you") parenting styles have changed. I prefer the teething tablets and washcloth method and steer clear of orajel or whiskey...I don't believe in exposing my child to alcohol(read the orajel ingredients--alcohol) before they're 21. But that's just me.

Good luck with teething. It's hard but "this too shall pass".

Make Monday: Make it Yellow!

From time to time as a mom I have heard other people talk about doing a "color" day. This means you designate a day a specific color and do special activities and things to celebrate that color. Now that Judah knows his colors, I decided to do just that.

A while back, we had the perfect rainy day to celebrate yellow. This idea definitely brightened up our day (literally). And it reinforced the emphasis of yellow in everyday life. I kept it simple though for my toddler.

Since we had a bunch of old parenting magazines laying around, we started looking for yellow objects throughout the pages. I would ask Judah to find something yellow and when he pointed out items like a duck, a lion, a banana, the sun, corn, and a lemon, I would cut it out (or he tore it out). Together we would glue them onto a yellow piece of construction paper, making a yellow collage. We still have the picture hung upstairs as a reminder.

For lunch we talked about yellow foods as we ate. Our yellow lunch menu contained macaroni and cheese with corn and banana. We even wore yellow that day. And walked around the house pointing out anything that fit the spectrum of yellow.

Making a day, "yellow" helped pass the time more productively. We had fun discovering what objects were yellow and certainly learned about our colors in the process.

So for the next rainy day, we will schedule another color. Any ideas?

Salvation Sunday: We're Still Here

We're still here. And unless Macho Man Randy Savage was the only person to be raptured, the group who sold all of their belongings to buy air time to tell people about the rapture were wrong.

And I kind of feel sad for them. I feel sad that they were duped into a belief that was so very wrong. Sad that they threw away their whole life for something someone made them believe. Sad that they effected so many family members, more than they realize, by their decisions.

But it happens often. And not just in these rapture groups. We had it happen in our family. A beloved family member that everyone put their faith, trust and respect in, ran off with a belief and destroyed more than one marriage, more than one family, more than one business.

Because of this family member's selfish ways, marriages are irrevocably broken, feelings are more than hurt and the rest of the family is left with explaining the behavior of the one who made the choices...we're left to explain something we don't quite understand ourselves...and the hardest part is explaining it to the kids.

My five year old asked, "Well, did she say she was sorry?" No, she did not. Because she believes her decision was right. But he knows better. He sees it. And it's hard to explain it in terms he understands.

So what can we do for those who turn their backs on family, friends and even their faith?

We can pray. We can let them know how their choices and decisions make us feel but we cannot make them understand how their single decision has created such a ripple effect in the lives of others. It is for THEM to find out and learn how they've damaged friendships and families.

If they learn from it, it's not a mistake. People grow and people change. Beliefs are hard to change. If someone believes something, it's hard to change it. But hopefully with prayer, thought and reflection; they can come to learn how their selfish actions effect others.

Believe what you want. Worship what you choose. But remember that your decisions not only effect you but those around you. Those who love and support you. No man is an island.

In my religion, I have been praying to St. Monica for my family member. St. Monica is the patron saint of those who have difficult marriages, disappointing children, victims of adultery or unfaithfulness, victims of (verbal) abuse, and conversion of relatives.

The prayer is as follows:

Blessed Monica, mother of St. Augustine, we give thanks to our Father in heaven Who looked with mercy upon your tears over your wayward son. His conversion and heroic sanctification were the fruit of your prayers. Dear St. Monica, we now ask you to pray with us for all those sons and daughters that have wandered away from God, and to add your prayers to those of all mothers who are worried over their children. Pray also for us that, following your example, we may, in the company of our children, one day enjoy the eternal vision of our Father in heaven. Amen.

Shuffle Saturday: The Rapture

A while ago, I wrote about the predicted rapture.

The day is here. And I stand by Matthew 25:13 "And so you must be vigilant, because you do not know the day or the hour."

Like I said in my previous post...I don't think God would end the world on a Saturday. I wonder if the rapture Preacher has prepared his Sunday readings.

They (the rapture people) state that it is a mathematical equation that allows them to know that today is the day. Isn't it a little short sighted to limit God to a story problem? "Noah's ark is 300 cubits long, if the ark is traveling at 20 kilometers an hour, how many days and nights of rain will it take to reach Mount Ararat?" Not so much. I have more faith in God than to create a math problem out of rapture.

So I plan to clean the house today. I plan to put a pork loin in the fridge to defrost for tomorrow. The world isn't going to end. I don't think it is right to taunt people for having faith in something...but I don't believe it.

Besides, my milk doesn't expire until Monday.

Food Friday: Make Your Own Tartar Sauce

I don't think I've ever purchased tartar sauce. I'm not a fan of cocktail sauce and never have been. But when it comes to shrimp or fish, give me some tartar sauce. Mmmm.

My mom (who I've learned all of my frugal skills from) taught me how to make tartar sauce at an early age. And it is simple! From basic ingredients you have in the fridge!

1. Miracle Whip
2. Yellow Mustard
3. Pickle Relish

That's it! Just mix to taste (which is how I cook) and serve.

Easy, simple and free (because you already have the ingredients on hand) tartar sauce!

Enjoy!

Toy Thursday: Finger Plays!

Judah and I love story time at the library. Perhaps it is because we made so many new friends. Or perhaps it is all the activities we participate in....bubbles, songs, flannel boards, crafts, shakers, stories, and finger plays. All we know is that we look forward to story time each week.

Finger plays are such an important aspect of child development (I am learning). Finger plays are used both at story time and our music class to develop senses of rhythm. First, finger plays provide an avenue for rhythm, emphasizing syllables, a precursor to language skills and speech development. In addition, the interactive hand actions stimulate hand coordination, dexterity, and body movement.

There are so many finger plays out there. Among the most popular, we recite "The Itsy Bitsy Spider" and "Hickory Dickory Dock." Many of the nursery rhymes have actions to go along, making them great finger plays.

There are also so many variations to learning and applying these little chants. The most common play is doing the corresponding hand actions. Think outside the box, teaching creativity. You could also rattle shakers to the beat. And you could teach high and low movements by doing similar body movements, going up high and low. You could bounce or clap to the rhythm (especially for little kids). And you could use pinwheels, parachutes, and balls to accentuate the rhythm.

Really there is no wrong way to have fun and learn. And you do not have to be at the library to do this. So let's give it a try with this little tickling chant called "My Hands."

On my head my hands I place
On my shoulders
On my hips
And at my side
Then behind them they will hide
I will hold them up high
Quickly make my fingers fly
Hold them out in front of me
Swiftly clap them, one, two, three!

Wash Wednesday: Dirt Magnet #4 Unwanted Dust Bunnies!

Recently, I had a friend mention to me in passing that she spent one Saturday moving her appliances to clean behind them. Which reminds me, I need to do the same.

I cringe when I think about the dust bunnies that live under appliances. These electric producing machines seem to attract dust by the gallons. Take your stove for instance. Imagine not only the dust but the burnt food crumbs and oil splatters underneath. Yuck.

It has been on my list for quite some time now to move out the washer, dryer, stove, and refrigerator. I can work around them to the areas I can reach but I am sure the actual dust underneath and behind is a safety hazard not to mention a gross mess. Thankfully,we cleaned behind the dishwasher when we replaced it early this year. I guess the rest I will put on daddy's to do list.

When we did do the dishwasher, first we moved the appliance to vacuum with our shop vac. Our miniature shop vac did great at picking up all the dirt. Be sure to look for any toys or other objects that may have slipped behind/underneath. Then I actually used my Wet Jet Swifter to mop the dirt on the floor. And finally I used a regular dry Swifter cloth followed by a soapy rag to dust the trip on the wall and collect cob webs. I concluded by wiping down the back and sides of the appliance.

Happy Dust Bunny Hunting!

Tip Tuesday: Healthy Sleep Habits!

I am no expert in sleeping but I do know that when Judah gets very grumpy and very whiny, the best remedy is some time spent in bed. Even if he does not fall asleep, at least being in bed gives him some down time to chill out away from others in a quiet environment. If it is not his normal nap time in the afternoon, I usually give him a book. I would say nine times out of ten, this does the trick and he returns collected with a smile.

I read in passing not to long ago from a parenting magazine (cannot find it now because we tore it up for craft projects) that recent studies in kids sleeping habits show a direct correlation between Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and the lack of sleep. The article reveals that the less sleep a child gets, the more likely they are to have problems with ADHD and too often the solution is medicine.

I find some truth in this with my own kid. If Judah stays up late the night before from activity, he actually gets up earlier instead of sleeping in like you had hoped. Likewise, if Judah gets a scheduled nap during the day, I have noticed he sleeps better at night.

Which brings me to the subject of discussion, naps. I am bothered lately by the number of people I run into and hear who mention their own toddlers/preschoolers do not nap anymore. My question remains, "do they not nap or do you not enforce the nap?" I have not reached that point in time yet with Judah, so mostly I pose this question out of curiosity.

I do have to wonder though about kids on medicine for hyperactivity. Families today are so busy with activity that nap time becomes sacrificed and kids stay up late. Our society teaches business and neglects the importance rest has on health and development, especially to young kids.

I guess I find that since rest solves a number of problems with Judah, should I not advocate for naps or at least some daily quiet time until he is older? What do you think?

Make Monday: Make Time For Yourself--Or End Up In The Hospital

Hey friends! It's been awhile since I posted! One thing I've learned over these last few weeks is that I need to make time for myself.

I had been experiencing pain for some time, but being the "tough mama" that I am, I ignored it until it was just too much to handle. And that's when I admitted I needed to go to the clinic. But I waited until it worked for my husband and my kids' schedule.

I had right flank pain, which made me think kidney stones. But it was worse than kidney stones. I've had them before. I managed to pass one, while pregnant (which meant I didn't take anything for the pain because I didn't want to harm the baby) at work (because I couldn't afford to take time off because I needed to save all of my PTO for the birth). Yes, while pregnant I passed a stone medication free at work. I know I may sound like your typical mother martyr, and I'm not trying to do that by any means, but I want to give you a point of reference on how bad pain has to be for me to inconvenience my husband/children.

The Doctor did a pregnancy test as well as a test for stones. Both were negative. So she gave me some Vicodin for the pain and sent me on my merry way. A week and a half later, I found myself in the ER. I had started my cycle and it was a lot heavier than normal. And A LOT more painful than normal. Again, for me to inconvenience anyone with my pain--it must be a big deal. So I called Mercy Nurse and they told me to go into the ER ASAP. I waited for my husband to return with the preschooler and finished up some work. I had him take me into the ER. They pumped me FULL of pain meds and the Doctor was amazed I was still awake and talking...and still in pain.

After 2 ultrasounds, 1 x-ray and 1 CAT Scan they found a large cyst on my right ovary. They kept me overnight for pain management. We scheduled surgery for Friday to remove the entire right ovary. Tuesday through Friday was a blur of pain, medication and prayer. I was so nervous about the surgery I even visited our Church and Father gave me the Anointing of the Sick. I was kind of freaking out.

My mom came down on Thursday night and we went in on Friday morning at 6AM. I remember trying to talk in the surgery room about the barn, my work and all of the things I do at home. I was trying to fight the overwhelming relaxing feeling coming over me because I HAD to tell the Doctors and Nurses about what I was involved in and HAD to spread the word. I'm a busy mom...I can't sleep! I know when I woke up, I was talking about the barn and CAPE PAC as well.

And I'm pushing myself too much. I know. The day after the surgery I went to our garage sale and had to have people tell me to sit down and not to lift things.

So between work, my volunteer items, taking care of the boys, trying to buy a house and getting our finances in order, taking care of the home...I spread myself a little thin. Now I'm not saying that the cyst is a result of all I do...but if I took time to listen to my body, maybe I would have heard what my body was trying to say and been able to schedule something, rather than having it all on an emergency status.

I'm not one to take time for myself. Even if it is Doctor ordered. But I have to learn from this. If you don't listen to your body and take time for yourself, you will end up in the ER. And that isn't convenient for anyone.

But I'm glad to be back. And I'm so thankful for Emma taking care of Mommy's Recess last week while I was in the hospital/under the influence of LOTS of pain medications.

Mommy does need a recess. Or she will end up in the nurse's office.

Salvation Sunday: He Knows Your Name!

Who Am I, Oh Lord, that You Should Know My Name....

He created the world in six days
Who Am I, Oh Lord, that You Should Know My Name....

He knew me in the womb before time even began
Who Am I, Oh Lord, that You Should Know My Name....

He is more faithful than the seasons He designed
Who Am I, Oh Lord, that You Should Know My Name....

He knows how many hairs are on my head
Who Am I, Oh Lord, that You Should Know My Name....

He watches over the littlest flower
Who Am I, Oh Lord, that You Should Know My Name....

He cares for the tiny sparrow
Who Am I, Oh Lord, that You Should Know My Name....

He delights in little children
Who Am I, Oh Lord, that You Should Know My Name....

He raises up and tears down kings and nations
Who Am I, Oh Lord, that You Should Know My Name....

He judges the wicked and crooked man
Who Am I, Oh Lord, that You Should Know My Name....

He provides relief for the weary in heart and body
Who Am I, Oh Lord, that You Should Know My Name....

He walks through the valley of the shadow of death with me
Who Am I, Oh Lord, that You Should Know My Name....

He builds up the humble, righteous man
Who Am I, Oh Lord, that You Should Know My Name....

He became a servant onto death of a cross
Who Am I, Oh Lord, that You Should Know My Name....

He removed our transgressions farther than the limits of west or east
Who Am I, Oh Lord, that You Should Know My Name....

He conquered sin's toil and death's sting
Who Am I, Oh Lord, that You Should Know My Name....

He offers eternal life and even now prepares a place
Who Am I, Oh Lord, that You Should Know My Name....


Thank You, Oh Lord, for knowing my NAME!

Shuffle Saturday: Garage Sale Day!

Today was our neighborhood garage sale. Need I say more. I forgot how much work a garage sale can be. And I am totally frozen from being outside in the damp cold despite all the hot chocolate I have drank. Still, though it was successful for only half a day as we made over $300.

I wanted to take a few minutes to jot some things down on what worked and what did not work before I forget, especially since it had been a while since I did a garage sale.

What worked really well....

Our pricing system with initials worked well, since we had three families participating in our sale. We then took a notebook and just recorded the prices in the appropriate columns as sales were made. Also on the list of things that worked well - combining families together into one sale made for a more worthwhile stop for people on a cold, dreary morning.

Setting out everything throughout the week prior to the sale also took pressure off of Friday night and Saturday morning. Doing a little bit each day made the process much easier.

We got $75 worth of change in quarters, ones, fives, tens, and twenties. This amount was perhaps a little high but probably was about right, especially if it had been a nicer day with a little more traffic. We did end up making change for one family who brought a $100 bill.

We used some old political yard signs turned inside out for signage which did help people find us, as our townhome is way in the back of our development and our road is not really on the beaten path for most people. We had a fairly steady (but light) flow of people most of the morning, starting around 8:30 am.

What didn't work as well as I had hoped...

I think our ad that we took out in the newspaper drove a lot of traffic to us, but could have been worded a little more clearly. I had rubber stamps to sell and only mentioned "stamps" in the ad, and we ended up with a lot of people looking for collectible postage stamps. Oops. Also, we had a lot of baby clothes and toys that we thought would sell since they are in great shape - maybe we didn't play that up enough in the ad.

We had hoped for a little more participation from our neighbors, as we had advertised as a neighborhood sale. We did communicate with them and thought we had a couple more committed, but starting a little earlier and communicating a few more times may have helped us to get better overall participation.

Overall, we counted the day as a success. It was nice to be outside for the morning after a long winter, even if the weather wasn't perfect. We sold a lot of quality items that needed a new home and can now re-purpose those dollars into something that makes sense with where we are in our lives now. Good luck on your next garage sale, and I hope to see you at mine next year!

Food Friday: Fruit Basket Upset!

The weather became so warm and humid this week that unfortunately we had to turn on the air condition. At least the hot, muggy air reminded us that summer is just around the corner. On days like these, nothing sounds good to eat nor do you feel like cooking in a hot kitchen though.

Fruit salads offer seasonal delights, fresh and cold, for such hot days. Usually you can find fruit less expensive this time of year. Easy to make, everyone, including your family, company, and the kids always enjoys a wonderful fruit dish.

One of my basic fruits salad recipes raises compliments every time and is so easy to mix up. Try the combination of mandarin oranges, strawberries, and bananas for a savory side dish. First, I pour a can (s) of mandarin oranges with fruit juice into a bowl (DO NOT DRAIN). Next, I wash and dice strawberries to add to the oranges. Let the fruit sit in the refrigerator until cool. At the last minute add banana slices to the salad (otherwise they will brown too soon).

I always use the mandarin oranges and their fruit juice as my base for this basic salad which seems to add flavor. Sometimes, I add kiwis and blueberries for difference in color. Other times, I add green grapes all depending on what I have on hand and how many people I need to serve.

Another delicious and pleasantly looking fruit salad is with mangoes. I dice up mangoes, adding kiwi slices and bright blueberries when they are in season. This salad is good served by itself or as a side for breakfast with vanilla yogurt and granola.

At any party, a fruit tray is usually devoured. For a special fruit dip for any cut fruit, mix a jar of marshmallow creme and a softened package of cream cheese. Mix together with a beater and put back in the refrigerator until ready to serve. For a more healthy dip, vanilla yogurt makes a nice substitute.

There is no reason to suffer on hot days. Enjoy a plate of fresh fruit and cold, ice water to cool down.

Toy Thursday: Musical Instruments!

In April, Judah was easily entertained with paper instruments. Daddy would draw large trumpets, pianos, tubas, and drums onto banner paper and then they would pretend to play them while listening to some Big Band or Jazz music on the record player. I on the other hand would print off small ones with my Cricut machine. Either way, Judah would walk around strumming paper guitars with paper picks or tooting on a paper horn. I love his creativity but perhaps it was because we did it so often that I soon got real bored with it.

That is when I decided to get him an instrument as part of his Easter basket. I even found a trumpet. On Easter day, he proudly carried that instrument around (even though he could not get a sound out of it) without letting anyone take it. Everyone was watching us at church. But I stuck to my convictions that we praise God with music so why not carry a trumpet to church, right?

The trumpet as already gotten a lot of wear as his xylophone and cymbals before that. Perhaps that is why I decided to put aside my preference of a train birthday party for a music-themed party instead.

While shopping for some instruments, I have found I really like the companies, Hohner Kids and Bontempi, for several reasons. For one, the instruments actually look real (only are made for little hands) and this is important to someone who wants to get out daddy's acoustic guitar or play on Grandma's piano on a daily basis. Not only do they look real, but offer features like the adult contemporaries with real sound unlike some imitation from the local toy store. Another feature is that the instruments seem to hold up well as they are designed for kids exploring their musical talents, especially mine who already knows what a cello is. The instruments also contain simple instructions via color codes for educational purposes.

We already have several instruments to start an orchestra...cymbals, trumpet, drums, xylophone, shakers. However, I am sure we will be banging, strumming, and tooting a lot more in the future. This is so much better than listening to him whine about why the paper guitar is broken.

Wash Wednesday: Getting Ready for a Garage Sale!

Yesterday, my son Judah and I got ready for our upcoming neighborhood garage sale this weekend. Since January, we have been going around the house cleaning and sorting closets, drawers, and buckets in storage to declutter our house. At last, garage sale week is upon us and we have been busy getting these collected items ready for it.

In fact if you were to stop by yesterday, you would have found us buried in items with price stickers all over us. Judah thought the stickers were neat and of course he had to stick the ones I already wrote all over himself. Oh well. Just make sure you have plenty of stickers.

Yes, we had things strewn all over the floor, sorting them according to categories: clothes, accessories, linens, electronics, and so on. Starting with one category, we neatly folded, taped, or bagged each item for display. From there we placed initialed price tags on each item or wrote prices directly on the bag. We then packed them away according to categories for simple set-up in the garage on Friday.

As I go through this process, I have learned to have a few things on hand to make this process smooth and efficient. These tools came in handy for pricing garage sale items allowing for a nice, neat display. And I carried this pile of tools around with me while I worked (out of Judah's reach).

• Masking tape
• Scotch tape
• Permanent marker
• Safety pins
• Small plastic bags
• Price tags
• Writing pen
• Old wire hangers
• Scissors
• Garbage bags
• Buckets

I had a garbage bag opened for donations as I sorted items. The small plastic bags came in handy for keeping small trinkets. I used beat-up hangers to hang clothes and safety pins to keep sets together. With the masking tape, I was able to tape around the linens to keep sets of table cloths together with the napkins. All the while, I had my permanent marker to write prices and my scissors to cut things if needed.

I also learned that it is not so bad to start pricing early. I cannot imagine if I had waited to the end of the week to start gathering up things. When I have a free moment, I am able to take one pile (category of items) to price without a huge mess for Judah to access.

This sounds like a lot of work, I know. I think being prepared though will help alleviate any confusion with customers. Everything will be clearly labeled and marked and ready to go.

Tip Tuesday: Know Your Limits!

Now that the weather has gotten nicer, I have somehow been a lot busier with activity. I recently joined my town home association board. I also am organizing our neighborhood garage sale this weekend in addition to setting up my own sale. Then I still need to respond to a political campaign who asked for help. On top of that, our family is finishing up our spring commitments like music class and financial class. Squeeze, Easter, Mother's Day, and a number two birthday and you have a very busy mom who is trying to keep her head above water with a teething kid and daily chores.

Sarah likewise too has been busy. While she is in the hospital for unknown back pain, she still manages to blog and write. Her family is in the process of buying a house adding additional stress. She continues to support and offer her time to "Save the Barn." All the while, she breastfeeds her 9 month old and takes care of a husband, a preschooler, and a toddler.

Are you tired yet? I am just from talking about how busy we are. Since it is on my mind, I decided to take a few minutes to address our limits as moms, me included.

So many people think that moms can do everything as the jack of all trades. And most of the time, moms are the jack of all trades when it comes to taking care of their families in many ways. Others think that because we stay at home we have all this extra free time. Granted moms are the reason so many charities stay successful because they continue to offer their time. Without this resource, charities and non-profits would certainly suffer.

However, perhaps we need to take a lesson from our toddlers in the word "NO." We also need to educate the outside world that we do juggle a lot. In fact our jobs at home are so important, especially caring for our kids. And because they are so important we need to limit ourselves to a few outside activities.

As moms, it is so easy to spread ourselves too thin. We naturally try and do to much. When we become weary and worn, we are less able to take care of ourselves, let alone our families. I encourage you to take a break for your own health and sanity.

Make sure you are getting lots of rest and are eating properly. Ask others for help when you need it and do not be afraid to rely on their help. Treat yourself to something fun. And do not be afraid to say, "no" from time to time.

Good luck.

Make Monday: Bubbles!

Up...up...down...pop! Judah has really wanted to play with bubbles lately. Last week, we even took them indoors to play on a rainy day. Some times he will chase and pop them. Other times, he wants to do it himself (like any toddler).

This weekend, while I was not looking he dumped out the soap on the ground, stepping in it with his bare feet. Then he thought he would broom it up making the concrete very soapy white. Oh well...

Needless to say, we are out of soap (I wonder why). He has several battery operated little bubble machines but we have no more soap. He has a flashlight bubble maker, a battery operated wand, and a bubble gun that allows no spillage. To continue our bubble fun with these cool toys, I thought we would try to make some home made soap.

This recipe I used long ago as part of a purple ribbon 4-H child development project (now I am glad my mom made me do it). I recommend letting the old kids or an adult do the blowing. Let the toddlers and smaller kids do the chasing.

9 cups water
1 cup dish soap
1/2 cup glycerin

or

1/2 cup water
4 tablespoons dish soap
1 1/2 tablespoons corn syrup

Mix ingredients together. And have lots of a fun!

Salvation Sunday: Happy Mother's Day!

A colleague of ours recently wrote a cute post on "You know you are a mom when...." I could fill in the blanks with a number of things and I am sure you could too, especially if you have young kids.

You know you're a mom when you....forget to snap your nursing bra and go out in public....wear vomit, poop, food, and snot all over your clothes instead of real (and nice) jewelry....find a pacifier hiding in your clothes pockets as you clean them out when doing laundry....when your kid plays in the toilet, writes on the wall in marker, and paints the floor with nail polish...you literally sit on the toilet longer than necessary so you can have a break...have interesting dinner conversations about poop with your friends...play hop scotch with the toys strewn all over the house...eat your kids' leftovers cold so that you can say you had lunch...

The list goes on. Yes, we moms go crazy at times. We get busy and forget things. We are even weird, do weird things (always with a purpose--and sometimes we don't know that purpose but we do it that way because OUR mom did it that way), and wear weird clothes (according to our kids).

But without this crazy mom, who multitasks and runs around, you would be lost. So today's post is a tribute to all MOMS, I mean....chef, janitor, chauffeur, manager of a laundry mat, scheduler, professional organizer, seamstress, photographer, distributor and supplier, decorator, teacher, daycare provider, milk producer and nurse.

Do not take your mom for granted. Let her know today how grateful you are for who she is and what she gives up for YOU.

"Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the LORD your God is giving you." (Exodus 20:12)

Shuffle Saturday: Preparing for Mother's Day (Hint to Husbands)

Hints from Sarah:

My husband asked me what I wanted for Mother's Day. I said, "Three well behaved boys." He paused and said, "Can you think of anything else?"

Ha.

Really? All I want for Mother's Day is to sleep in (and by sleeping in I mean 7AM), maybe breakfast in bed would be nice and a day of hugs, kisses and no fighting. Is that too much to ask? Save the flowers, save the perfume...just a day of nice boys.

Hints from Emma:

I was thinking about Mother's Day recently and how I wanted to spend my one day "off." By day off I mean, sleep in and wake up at my leisure without anyone whining at me. Then I would get my shower, get dressed up, and actually put on makeup. A home made breakfast would be waiting for me. Someone would be doing the chores so that they would not be waiting for me the on Monday morning. I could spend the day doing girl things like scrap booking, shopping, and reading all uninterrupted.

Then I got to thinking, the reality of this happening is pretty slim. So why not send me away to a bed and breakfast all by myself. I could really enjoy the quiet with rest and relaxation. I could enjoy being waited on instead of waiting on everyone else.

When it really comes down to it, I think I would rather spend the day with those who made me a mother, my husband and my son. Without them, I would not have this title or lofty position. I guess being a dead beat tired mom is a small sacrifice to pay for those I love. You know it is all worth it when they hug me and tell me they love me. So I think I will would like to get showered in hugs and kisses by my boys!

Food Friday: Food Cookie Cutter Style!

During the Christmas Holiday season, I had all my cookie cutters out to make cookies. It was at that time too that Judah started becoming more and more picky with his food. This is coming from a kid who used to like and eat all his vegetables as a baby. Suddenly, he was voicing his opinion at the dinner table. And I was picking up thrown food and struggling to get my toddler to eat anything.

The first time I used a cookie cutter to make a design out of food, I cut out lunch meat and cheese, hoping he would eat some meat. For several months, he would not eat any meat and lived primarily on beans, eggs, and cheese. I used a train and a caboose cookie cutter. Sold. He ate the meat.

Today, we were in a hurry to get home. Judah was extremely fussy and desperately needed a nap from our morning out. I was afraid I would not get him to eat lunch since he was so tired (thus screwing up our schedule). I asked him if he wanted a train peanut butter sandwich. He responded, "caboose." Once again, the "choo choo" design saved us from lunch going completely south. Now he just needs to take a nap.

At Grandma's house, he gets airplanes. This is so easy that even Papa has made lunch so that the ladies can shop. Him and his cousin play airplanes as they eat together.

The cookie cutter idea is a creative, simple way to feed picky toddlers, especially since we moms worry about their food intake (or lack of). Reserved for special times only (or desperate times for mom) at our house, Judah still appreciates eating the bread crust as I make him eat it before he gets another train.

Toy Thursday: Color Your Bath Water!

We have our neighbors over for dinner several evenings during the week. In fact we often combine our efforts to make a complete meal for both families. After dinner, we visit until the kids get fussy and need to go to bed. On one of these occasions, our little neighbor boy (four years old) was on the verge of throwing a temper tantrum when his mom told him they had to walk back home for bath night. As I could see his face turn into a frown and arms go up, the light bulb turned on. I called him to follow me so that I could give him a color bath drop. And immediately his attitude changed as they went home.

Likewise, Judah has enjoyed playing with Crayola Color Bath Dropz. I actually discovered them by chance one day at Walmart in the soap section. I found a kit that contained a plastic frog that fits over your bath facet. Since our bathroom was decorated green frogs and Judah was hitting his head on the facet of late, I thought, "why not." The frog does work great by the way.

The real fun though lies in the three little dye drops that were included in the package. After we finished with the those colors, I checked back at the store for more. Sure enough I found a container full of them in the soap section for about $3.00.

When we tell Judah it is bath night, his response turns into the color he wants. We have combined the primary colors for orange, green, and purple water. We have also doubled the colors for dark blue, deep red, and bright yellow. He helps daddy feed the frog with the little drops allowing the colored to come out of the frog.

And the byproduct for mom is a stress free environment. He actually looks forward to his bath for once. He excitedly talks about the water changing color, learning his colors at the same time. The water drains leaving little (if any) dye residue stain that can be easily rinsed right off.

So why fight bath night? When we say, bath, the conversation turns to colors. Happy splashing!

Wash Wednesday: Poop

Ah poop. It's not pleasant but it's always there. My mom managed to potty train my oldest child in a weekend (she deserves sainthood for that) and now our toddler is going through it.

Our toddler is a strong boy. He dislikes sitting in a poopy or wet diaper (who would like it?) and has figured out how to undress himself and take the diaper off--no matter what the diaper contains. Yes, ew.

At least once a day I hear the preschooler screaming "POOP" from whatever room they're playing in. I sprint to wherever they are and inspect to see what the poop is on, how far the poop has been trailed etc.

It's gross. And I can't wait until he's potty trained. And then there's always the "blowout" from the baby's diaper. And the ever so fun "Poop in the tub".

I never thought I'd ever write about poop. But I'm a mom. And it's inevitable.

I've found the best way to clean poop depends on the situation. In the tub, we use the "reusable" cups from gas station drinks (cleaned of course) to rinse hair. When the poop in the tub occurs, we scoop it out with the cup into the potty. Toss the cup. Drain the water and refill the tub with HOT water and add bleach. This way the tub gets clean as well as the toys. We usually let it sit for at least a half hour so the bleach can do its work. Yes, I probably have the cleanest tub in Iowa. And we go through a lot of bleach.

When there's the poop on the carpet situation, clean it up with clorox wipes and then use resolve carpet cleaner. That should remove the stain. But no promises.

Clothing needs to be washed in hot (and by itself) right away. I usually run an empty load (with bleach and detergent) after wards as well. Just to make sure all of the ick is gone.

Ah poop. I'm a College educated woman with a degree in English and yet, I'm not above writing about poop. Because when you're a mom, you're a Jane of all trades...even the not so pleasant ones.

Tip Tuesday: Watching Your Pennies!

Recently, my husband and I have been extra careful watching our pennies...Yes, that means we have been trying to tackle our spending process to stay within the bounds of a budget. Perhaps this is because we are currently taking Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace Seminar.

At any rate, getting back to money basics is hard work. Bills fill your mailbox. Receipts overflow on the counter. Then of course your daily (or not daily) conversations about money may/may not be pleasant.

One of our goals to help us be more frugal is to track our pennies (and dollars). We have learned to use Mint.com as our main resource to control our spending and curb our money habits. This web site features an online free service of financial record keeping.

The cool features on this site provide the ability to import all banking transactions and balances automatically in one secure place to set budgets, track spending, and set goals. In this economy, it helps to have a tool with which you can see your spending habits. Here you can literally track to see where every penny goes by trending graphs across months and automatic categorization of spending. My personal favorite is that you can split up receipts to accurately keep records for your budget. Also, you can set future goals for saving money like investing or saving for college. Mint.com helps guide you along your financial path.

We ourselves have information from all our banking accounts dumped into Mint.com. We then take our receipts and account them to the transactions recorded. From there we can electronically set up a monthly budget according to our personal needs and wants. Mint.com informs us through alerts to our smart phones if we are within budget or over budget. Since everything is electronic, information is easily accessible and transferable. And most important, we contain updated real time information regarding our assets, debts, and transactions.

Consider setting up an account with this free, secure service today. And watch where your pennies go.

For more frugal tips, visit Learning the Frugal Life.

Make Monday: Make it Patriotic!

Unless you've been living under a rock (or in a cave) you know what's been going on in the world. Osama Bin Laden has been caught. Not only caught, but killed.

My children always know what is going on in the news. I'm a Fox News Junkie. When Liam was only a toddler, we'd get home from work/daycare and he'd say, "Mommy, Inna watch Fox Choose." Yeah, he's in the know. And that's a good thing. I can remember when the Challenger exploded (I was 5) but my dad MADE me watch it. He was always watching the news. And that was before 24 hour news channels!

Liam has grown up a patriot. He had to. He was my date to many political functions when his Dad was in Iraq, proudly serving his country. Liam knew that "daddy was in the sandbox making the world safe."

So this morning, when he got up, I told him that there were some Navy SEALS, guys who were kind of like Daddy but really REALLY specially trained, captured and killed Osama Bin Laden. He responded, "The guy who killed all of the people on 9/11?"

He's 5 folks. I'm impressed. When I answered in the affirmative, he responded with a "YES!" and a fist pump.

Later in the morning, I could hear him playing with his little brother Sean (2) in his room. He was playing "Super secret spy" and spying on Sean who was on the floor while Liam was perched up on the top bunk of his bunk bed.

I asked him what made him play that game. He responded, "The Navy SEALS. The guys who got Bin Laden." There were no gun sounds (I don't allow gun play) and he was using binoculars to spy.

I suppose it is equivalent to Cowboys and Indians...and after all, Bin Laden's code name was Geronimo.

I encourage you to tell your kids about what's going on in the world. And teach them about the great country we live in. After all, patriotism is important.

David, Liam and Sarah Bowman just before his deployment to Iraq.

Salvation Sunday: What has God been teaching you?

So my friend Lynn and I have been talking this afternoon about things God have been teaching us lately...

You know, God has a way of trying to get our attention at times. Have you ever been in a situation where it is almost like God is putting up red flags along your path? These red flags like barriers hopefully cause us to stop and question our journey.

On the other hand, have you ever felt things fall into place almost too easy like God is sending them your direction? His way is made clear to you through circumstances or people.

God's plan is far greater than anything we can imagine or plan for ourselves. Take for instance the story of Sarah's house hunting experience this week. Perhaps her "dream" house did not work out for a reason. And yet, God has something far greater in mind for her family.

While we think we know what we want, need, or plan for our lives, God has a perfect plan (usually better and completely different than what we want). I suggest we follow it...for we all know in His permissive He will let us go our own directions. However, then we must live with less than perfect consequences.

This is true with Adam and Eve. God's perfect will was that they live happily in the garden all their days in constant commune with Him. He gave them the choice to eat the fruit of the tree though. Sadly, their choice was to disobey thus sinning and separating themselves from God. God, in His permissive will allowed this.

Thank God though that He provided a way through Jesus Christ as redemption to this less than perfect sinful life. With Jesus, all things are made perfect again.

We have a choice. I pray that we follow God's perfect path. It will be so much better for us. But if we do get off the path, we have only to come back to Jesus.